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Frightening statistics

I often think, isn’t a person a less noble creature than a crow? For the crow, that dumb garbage bird spends his entire earthly life with one partner. Well, you will say, there are white birds that are loyal, about which poems and songs are written. These are the swans.

But about people, we can’t say that. Especially today. Especially at the beginning of a new year. Because statistics show that divorce rates are the highest at the beginning of the year. Apparently, two things work – we wait for a miracle and we get tired. We raise a glass of champagne, which does not lift the soul to the stars but opens the wounds hidden under the festive make-up. And we burst.

Or maybe, in simple terms, we measure our lives by years and decide that we deserve a better one and mark a fat dash. It seems that the Italians had (or still have) a tradition to throw broken items through the windows before the New Year. So do we, without even trying to fix it. Because the market is full of new stuff. Shiny, clean, with assistive features.

Life is only one, we say, we must live it happily. Until one day we get noticed that we ourselves have become just trash for someone, just the past, and are thrown to the landfill of broken hearts.

It is sad to see that divorces are more common than marriages already. And I think, if we ourselves are unable to maintain, to nurture relationships, will we be able to tell our children: choose a person for life, if the anger appears – talk. Do not be afraid and do not run from the relationship. You cannot run away from yourself.

© Fortune, 2020

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  1. A common term we’ve here is “marriage was once for a lifetime, marriage is now for a short time” …
    that’s what is happening now …
    My parents have been together for years …
    but they aren’t a really good and positive example for us, or maybe it’s just me …

  2. Yes, it is possible to live with one for life. Some birds do it and people. I met several couples some years back that were like parents to me. One couple were in love , he was 17 and she was 16 and they married and when I met them were very much in love in their 80s. I was amazed
    My parents married for life, but some family members had marriages that did not last.

    Really, I am sure people don’t know what they want. Do they want a person or things? Or money? I hate to say it but yes, I have heard even in white New Zealand some high up people have arranged marriages not for love but all for money. If money is all they want money is all they get.

    • If money is all they want money is all they get… – you said it perfectly. Such marriages have become popular here too.

      There are no divorces in my family, neither my parents or three sisters and their children ever divorced. And not because we would follow such tradition and would be afraid to break it, no, I think we got an excellent example of how to deal with problems in marriage. I know my husband from the time when I was 16 years, and he still is my best friend, my lover, my supporter.

      So, I agree with you, I think it is possible to live with one for life if there is love. Without love, there is no true marriage.

    • I also assume it is possible, and I have a great example – my family where no one still is divorced. I still think, marriage is a very serious step, there should not be “maybe” or “I will try”… Our decisions should be made for life and choosing the right partner is the main thing. Then marriage for life will work.

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