Fortune
I often think, isn’t a person a less noble creature than a crow? For the crow, that dumb garbage bird spends his entire earthly life with one partner. Well, you will say, there are white birds that are loyal, about which poems and songs are written. These are the swans.
But about people, we can’t say that. Especially today. Especially at the beginning of a new year. Because statistics show that divorce rates are the highest at the beginning of the year. Apparently, two things work – we wait for a miracle and we get tired. We raise a glass of champagne, which does not lift the soul to the stars but opens the wounds hidden under the festive make-up. And we burst.
Or maybe, in simple terms, we measure our lives by years and decide that we deserve a better one and mark a fat dash. It seems that the Italians had (or still have) a tradition to throw broken items through the windows before the New Year. So do we, without even trying to fix it. Because the market is full of new stuff. Shiny, clean, with assistive features.
Life is only one, we say, we must live it happily. Until one day we get noticed that we ourselves have become just trash for someone, just the past, and are thrown to the landfill of broken hearts.
It is sad to see that divorces are more common than marriages already. And I think, if we ourselves are unable to maintain, to nurture relationships, will we be able to tell our children: choose a person for life, if the anger appears – talk. Do not be afraid and do not run from the relationship. You cannot run away from yourself.
© Fortune, 2020
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Is it possible to live with one partner all your life?
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Yes
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No
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It depends on partner
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A common term we’ve here is “marriage was once for a lifetime, marriage is now for a short time” …
that’s what is happening now …
My parents have been together for years …
but they aren’t a really good and positive example for us, or maybe it’s just me …
it really depends. I would say, with my current partner, yes one lifetime is not enough.
Oh, I also say to my man that we will meet in another life if such exists.
my wife and I have had the same conversations!
It depend on partner……….
But if you fell in love once, it was worth loving him. Why couples so easily forget what attracted them to each other?
Yes, it is possible to live with one for life. Some birds do it and people. I met several couples some years back that were like parents to me. One couple were in love , he was 17 and she was 16 and they married and when I met them were very much in love in their 80s. I was amazed
My parents married for life, but some family members had marriages that did not last.
Really, I am sure people don’t know what they want. Do they want a person or things? Or money? I hate to say it but yes, I have heard even in white New Zealand some high up people have arranged marriages not for love but all for money. If money is all they want money is all they get.
If money is all they want money is all they get… – you said it perfectly. Such marriages have become popular here too.
There are no divorces in my family, neither my parents or three sisters and their children ever divorced. And not because we would follow such tradition and would be afraid to break it, no, I think we got an excellent example of how to deal with problems in marriage. I know my husband from the time when I was 16 years, and he still is my best friend, my lover, my supporter.
So, I agree with you, I think it is possible to live with one for life if there is love. Without love, there is no true marriage.
My second marriage was to my soul mate and we had 20 happy years together. If he had not died suddenly I would have been happy to share my love with him for at least another 20
Happy people who meet their soulmates. Cherish your memories.
I have been with my 2nd wife for more than 30 years now. It’s just sad that there was a 1st before her.
It was the youth’s mistake? Not true love? Passion? Or what? Why you married your first wife? Oh, don’t answer if you find it a too open question.
I suppose it is possible to live with one partner all your life. I won’t know this because I’ve been a widow for 20 years.
Actually, I am afraid of time if I become a widow. I will need to learn to live alone again. I guess, it is not easy.
It’s really not easy. It took quite a long time for me to get used to the new way of life.
back in the day, folks assumed marriage would be work. today everyone seems to assume it will have a fairytale ending. I blame Disney
Thanks for the smile, but in some way, it is true what you said. And it is not strange, that those who assumed marriage is a work lived mostly with one partner. Just not all were happy. It would be a perfect fairy tale to live with one partner and feel happy to the moon and back, as in Disney movies.
even equating marriage with happiness is a relatively new concept
It is very possible to have only one partner.
I also assume it is possible, and I have a great example – my family where no one still is divorced. I still think, marriage is a very serious step, there should not be “maybe” or “I will try”… Our decisions should be made for life and choosing the right partner is the main thing. Then marriage for life will work.
My mon only has one love, and he has passed away over 8 years ago. Her best friend had the love of her life as well, and when her husband died she never remarried.
I also know many examples of such marriages. but what is going on now with young couples makes me wonder if young people know what is true love?
It was possible for my parents.
For mine too. We are lucky to have a great example.
You are so right. This conversation comes at a perfect time for me @Fortune I honestly believe that when my father passed away, my Mom was there to get him.