DocAndersen
Let me start my post today with a disclaimer “what follows is not an order. It is not intended to tell anyone what to do, and it is my opinion and thoughts.”
I was thinking about comments a lot.
• First, let me state again. I don’t care if you disagree with me! It doesn’t both me at all. Please be civil in the disagreement. But I am an adult I do take offense if you disagree.
o If I feel that your comment is attacking me personally I will ignore it.
o If you continue to attack me personally rather than the concept and ideas expressed I will report the comment.
• Second, comments mean the world to me. I like getting upvotes, but I love getting comments.
One of the things that I have been feeling bad about lately is the number of posts I can read in a day. I want to apologize for the ones I’ve missed lately. It is nothing personal, and I have to cap the number of blogs I read every day. I have between 1 and a maximum of 2 hours a day to devote to Virily. Based on that I can respond to the 150 notifications I get each day and read between 20 and 30 new posts.
I apologize if I have missed a post you’ve shared recently.
I have been stressed and have made a few errors in comments (typing the wrong thing in the comment and so on), I would like to apologize to everyone where I didn’t make sense.
Anyway, thanks for reading – I am going to ask a bunch of poll questions around questions.
I am working through when to kick off the Virily Movers project again. I have done some initial studies, looking at who is moving content and views and have some interesting information.
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Question of
It is ok to disagree right?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Do you love comments?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Do you feel safe commenting on the posts of others?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Do you ever ignore comments?
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Yes
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No
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I agree so much with this, Doc.
Often the idea of commenting is to extend the original posts catchment by offering further insight, alternative views, or comparing with similar circumstances.
It is also an opportunity for personal experiences of opinions to be shared.
I do not prescribe to the ‘snowflake’ theory, so I am happy to express controversial views when I feel strong enough about a topic or absolute disagree with the post. If doing so annoys or upsets someone, so be it.
BUT, I am anti-anyone who attacks another. Personal abuse is unnecessary in any form.
I don’t comment as often as maybe I could. I have also not been here, on Virily, much recently. I have a busy life which keeps me otherwise occupied for the majority of the time
If I don’t comment, it’s NOT because of you!
I see your many other projects Paul, you are quite busy. I truly cherish your comments when you can.
But I also understand the value of the comments when you can!
Most people have not said anything to offend me here bar one or two
I found that most people were very nice to me in home care but one in 50 would be quite abusive and tolerated it for about 5 times and left that person.
That did not happen very often
my wife lives in the home health care world, she agrees with you!
Most comments are great, if something looks offensive I ignore it. If I put a comment in that is not intended to offend, I hope I get forgiven for not paying attention…
Generally I like to avoid conflict..
I try to ignore, it isn’t always possible!
I love reading comments especially the ones where the person share his/her own view in relation to the post and I do not mind if he/she disagree as long as it is relevant to the topic.
I answer to every comment even the most mundane. Why? Because the people who comment on my page do not owe me anything and yet, they put in their time to like or comment. Time=effort.
On personal attack – – – I am not easily offended because whatever the person say does not define me. Unless I allow it to define me.
i can live with personal attacks, I can’t live with people making false statements about me, or more often about other authors.
Trust me, Doc, oftentimes it is not worth our energy to feed those with attention ?. And certainly we can live with false statements because them saying those things do not prove anything. If a person like that comment negatively, just do not engage. If you trust your friends here, you would know they know you enough to give credit to negativity. ?
i do agree that sometimes you cannot. When the person goes to other peoples posts and does the same thing, I feel like i should engage.
*not to give – – – i hate not being able to edit my comments here ?
that was the number 3 issue we sent tot he admin team.
Q: It is ok to disagree right?
Yes (5 votes) – 83%
No (1 votes) – 17%
Q: Do you love comments?
Yes (4 votes) – 67%
No (2 votes) – 33%
Q: Do you feel safe commenting on the posts of others?
Yes (5 votes) – 83%
No (1 votes) – 17%
Q: Do you ever ignore comments?
Yes (2 votes) – 33%
No (4 votes) – 67%
Love is a bit strong maybe. I do like them. When I don’t comment it is a time thing. I usually try to go back and catch up. I try to answer every comment – sometimes I am late in doing so.
I would ignore a comment attack. What can be said to an attack that wouldn’t escalate or prolong a situation that needn’t exist?
(((I don’t always comment well off-the-cuff and I have a fear of commenting stupid things. Is there a name for that phobia?)))
I don’t really have an answer to your phobia question but as always it is an interesting open ended question!!!!
Comments are an interesting interaction.
I decided to DuckDuckGo this and HOLY COW! I have no answer yet – still going through the list. Is this for real? – http://phobialist.com
I suspect i have a phobia phobia 🙂
No worries – you’re on there: Phobias- Phobophobia.
I suspect that is probably a good fit 🙂 Or fear of smart-aleck comments but that is one I normally cause!
Do you ever get something that looks like this when you comment? – 1 Virils for comment on https://virily.com/virily_poll/%d0%b0r%d0%b5-%d1%80h%d0%bet%d0%begr%d0%b0%d1%80hs-%d0%b2%d0%b5%d1%81%d0%bem%d1%96ng-%d1%82%d0%be%d0%be-%d1%80l%d0%b5nt%d1%96ful-t%d0%be-%d0%b2%d0%b5-%d0%bc%d0%b5%d0%b0n%d1%96ngful/ — Is that normal?
If smart aleck is bad then I better go dark here – I’m just incorrigable. I don’t try to be. … I do though – I got a mouth on me.
I get those as well it isn’t just you.
That, of course, the communication a smart-aleck needs. But in this case yes, I get those as well. 😉
I only post a comment when I have something to say otherwise I go to the next post.
That is fair, I try to do the same thing with the posts of others as well!
I admire you so you can find time for Virily. I don’t even have as much obligation as you, but sometimes I run out of time. I try to keep up with posts and comments on a regular basis, but sometimes I’m a little late.
i always feel like I am way behind on comments. Today I have 200. I won’t get them all done (many are notifications not comments!)
I read all the comments and I also try to answer all the comments … so far I have not received any offensive comments … I am comet to the one who returns the comments to me … I also cannot force anyone to comment on my posts … this is a free choice for everyone … that’s my opinion, dear friend
it is a free choice issue for comments. I just wanted to put it out there that comments are valuable!
They are valuable to me, too, my friend
that is true, i notice your comments are always fun!
It’s always nice to talk to you, dear friend
I read all comments and try to respond to each one. i am sure I have missed some. And I know I have missed posts lately. So many new members and posts. I am trying to keep up.
I am limited by time, as I am sure you are. So many posts to read!
Well I welcome all kind of comments , there is always something new to learn in comments from people living in various parts of the world.
we don’t have a choice, all comments are accepted by the platform. When we as authors report them, even if we do not wish that type of comment, they are often returned by the moderator.
I like to read comments; and I can only think of one discussion that I did not comment on because I could not comprehend what was being discussed because of the language barrier. If I disagree, I might make a comment or be neutral.
I am always curious so many here use english as a 2nd or 3rd language. of course, per my dear friends from the UK I don’t speak english. I speak American~!
I like to read comments, I have to admit that I am usually late to respond to the comments due to lack of time but I try to do as much as possible. I don’t post comments on those that posts I disagree with, I find an agreeable post and comment on it.
I sometimes can’t help posting comments on things I disagree with. But i like your concept, thank you for sharing that.