Breathe

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1. Nobody can really understand nor be prepared for any type of grief. It is hard and all I can say is that I too am human and I am here if you ever need me.

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   • Thank you for your continued support Pam. Much appreciated, more than you know.

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2. I do believe that sometimes death gave relief to the ones I lost…
   they suffered too much pain and torment. I’m glad they left… (not that I wish they die) but its a better option for them. I remember they fought to their best and left as a fighter. Now they live in comfort at a better place.

   I do think kindness is contagious in a way. If it doesn’t it can help make someone’s day.

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   • I believe each situation and loss is different and we all react differently, and that is all ok. Compassion is the main point I was trying to make. And I know you understand as you are always kind.

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     • Thank you, Carol. You’re so kind.

       Just wish we all manage to pick up something positive on every turn, be it good or bad.

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       • You are very welcome and I appreciate you always understanding and being compassionate.

3. I agree with you. We shouldn’t judge anybody if we have never been in their shoes. But also, I think we shouldn’t judge anybody even if we have been in their shoes.
   I don’t like it when people laugh at the idea of someone wanting to commit suicide. In my teen years, I was depressed to the point of contemplating various ways I can employ to end my life. I cut lines on my hands which are partially visible. Sometimes I have the urge to cut lines on my hands. We should be caring, loving and understandable.

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   • I am so glad you wrote this my friend, hopefully we can help others and my thoughts are always with you. I do not mean I am glad you are going through, this, I hope you understand. I just appreciate you sharing your story. Hugs to you. Glad to have you here.

4. Thank you for the mention, and the words on this post helped me. My family situation has gotten worse. Will message you!

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   • You are very welcome my friend and please remember all you can do is truly all you can do. Take care of yourself and your Mom is your priority. Hugs.

5. I agreed with DocAnderson , nice post thank you

6. what a beautiful post and of very kind. I do agree with you that it is critical to start with kindness to build on the concept of pay it forward.

   But it is also important sometimes to stand in the way of cruelty.

   As humans we are both sides are we not. We are the ones who make the world better and sadly we are the ones that also make the world worse.

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   • Every day I hope in some small way a word can help just one person. The pain we experience in life is staggering. I have picked myself up many times, brushed myself off and continued. I suppose I will continue doing so the rest of my life.

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     • my grandfather always said measure your days this way.

       did I help one person?
       Did I make one person smile?

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       • Words to live by for sure.

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7. I lost my dad when I was 12, I have struggled with grief for years until I learned to let go of the pain and accept life as it comes. I always look back at the pain , remember life is short and make the best of what I have.

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   • Sorry for your loss Dawn. The best we can do is what you are doing. Those we love and lose want us to be happy.

8. I have a saying that always helps me when things get tough. I stand still and look in a mirror and say to myself You will be all right, people have it much worse than you, you will survive and then I go on. I know the Lord is also looking at for me and I find it very relaxing to be able to communicate with people I know online on the sites I write on.

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   • That is a good one and had also gotten me through many difficult days. Keep our head up and moving forward is our goal.

9. Losing dear ones is expected sooner or later and most of us here including me would be in that category. But life goes on.

   • Oh my gosh, life goes on! Yes it does but I try to have some compassion. Losing my only child of 16 was never expected. And it doesn’t matter how old, it hurts. My Dad was 85 and I still welcomed compassion when he died two years ago.

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     • You have moved on and yes that loss moves with you and so it does move with all those who have lost their dear ones.

       Losing your only child at that age I understand is much too much Carol.

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       • I haven’t moved one, I live a day at a time without him and I push through but I wouldn’t call it moving on. That is something you do after a divorce for example. I guess we see it differently.

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         • As I have already said your loss is something that cannot be forgotten in a hurry Carol. I am hearing about it now and offer my condolences if that is of any help .

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         • Thank you Grace. It can never be forgotten.

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10. You are very welcome. And thank you for the visit.

11. We never know until we go through the same, I always try to be nice, sometimes our kindness is enough to help someone.

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    • You are so right, we never know what others are going through. Thank you for always being kind.

      • And thank you for reading as well.

12. I always say, until we experience it ourselves, we do not know what it looks like. We cannot explain this in words.

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    • I knew you would understand as well my friend. Such true words you shared.

      • I have to say, many have no clue what some of us walk around with every day.

13. Thanks for sharing the encouragement.

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    • You are most welcome, just trying to help if needed.

      • And I appreciate your support as well.

14. Every loss is hard and everyone carries it their way, my dear friend … I try to be friendly with everyone here at Virily

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    • You are right and yes my friend you are always friendly. Thank you for being here.