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First of all, I wanted to iterate something I brought up. Views have traditionally gone down in July/August, at least on this site since I have been here (roughly four years). It is a normal thing as people head off towards vacation in several parts of the world. Hopefully, my mentioning that views were down overall didn’t alarm anyone. We are down since November of last year, but we are also down now because it is the July Doldrums. I am not sure why this site has done that, but it has every summer I’ve been here. So don’t worry, lower views in July usually is.

I have over the four years, or so I’ve been here offered advice and help to anyone that reached out to me. I realize that people don’t always want help, so if they don’t reach out, I tend not to offer anymore. Based on that, I have had two authors that I helped, resent the one-way relationship that creates. First of all, as a human being, I do not assume that because I help someone, they are inferior. I do not consider myself superior; I try to help. I have personally helped more than 40 authors on this site, two authors got angry with me and based on the response of the two, it was wholly my fault. I realize that it is very vague in the way I described this situation, but that is on purpose.

I believe it is essential to help people. I know, based on my community call to action of a couple of days ago that many of you do as well. There are those authors who don’t, and I do understand that. No one says you have to participate in a community. In the IT world, we call that “show and throw up” or seagull consulting (swoop in, leave something, fly away). Not everyone has to be the same for a site to be successful.

But I do want to caution the readers and other authors that there are people who are here on this site to benefit themselves. I can tell you, from personal experience, that there are people here on this site that genuinely care about both the site and the other authors here. I would even go so far as to the same some of them are indeed the kind of people I cherish as friends.

  • So here are the rules by which I am operating now. If you comment on my post, I will reply, plus I guarantee I will find your post and comment there. If you respond to the comment on my post or your post, I will reply. Until, as another author pointed out to me, we get to the Thank you, no Thank you part of a conversation.
  • If you ask me for help, I will do what I can do.
  • I will read posts that I find interesting (even if the author doesn’t comment on my posts), but I will not read posts by people that never comment on posts anymore. I am trying to cut my time here and focus on other things. If I read your post and I’m afraid I have to disagree, I will tell you in a comment. I may, if I have time, even include links to information sources that contradict what you posted.

This work is Copyright DocAndersen. Any resemblance to people real or fictional in this piece is accidental (unless explicitly mentioned by name.)

  • Question of

    Do you have rules you follow here?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Do people here often ask you for help?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Since the poll monster got my poll should i buy a poll monster trap?

    • Yes
    • No

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  1. We lost an author last year. He reached out to me about payment method. I sent him the admin contact email. I think he discontinued because his country is eligible for PayPal payment.
    Like you, I read and comment on those who read and comment on mine. But also, like you, I comment on posts of authors who don’t comment on mine or of other users because their posts attracted me.

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  2. I recognized the dogs as being yours even before I saw your name. You are a good guy. You always comment when write something and when I go into your post I like to comment too. Thank you for being here and on other sites we are together.

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  3. “First of all, as a human being, I do not assume that because I help someone, they are inferior. I do not consider myself superior; I try to help.”

    This is generally how you come across to me too. You are a genuine person.

    Our style of writing can sometimes belie our thoughts though.

    Sometimes, I come across, as opinionated, and too one-sided, or as a know-it all.

    I am trying to alter my own style of writing, by adding things like, “I see it like this, or this is only my opinion”, instead of stating it as what looks like an undisputable fact.

    Instead of bluntly saying, “God exists”, I try now to say, “I think that God exists, and would operate like this, if he did exist.”

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    • i have found you willing to ask and answer questions. In my code of conduct, i am most happy when I find people that let me ask questions without becoming angry. That I can carry a different view of what they say or are doing to them and they will say, oh.

      No respond with a series of angry messages.

      I find you are someone I can have those conversations with and I welcome and cherish those.

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      • Yes, I like to discuss things with someone who can match me, and make me think on both sides of an issue, as you do.

        I try to stay calm, as, as soon as we get upset, our (clear) thinking goes out the window, mostly too.

        I try not to have any really fixed opinions; if we have those too strongly, and feel challenged, perhaps this is why we get upset, or angry.

        I try to remain open to all ideas, but I do like to not be swayed too much, and to keep thinking for myself too., as I see that you do too

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        • The reality of opinions is that they trend towards permanent if we let them.

          People often get wound are the reality of argument. My favorite is, it is ok for me to say you did something wrong, it is not ok for you to say I did something wrong. I’ve encountered that here on this site many times.

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          • We do need to have a certain level of awareness, mixed with humility, to see and to say that we were wrong though.

            Otherwise, we just go on defending our own wrong position, ad Infinitum.

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          • Thanks. I like and appreciate that quote from Stephen Covey too.

            He has my first name, and I covey his words there, and I wish I had said that…lol…

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  4. You are the lucky recipient of random comment number 130 “It would be nice to spend billions on schools and roads, but right now that money is desperately needed for political ads.” – Andy Borowitz

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