Steven Gamboa
Some people think that loving oneself more than the others are considered as a selfish act. “Can you blame them?” If we think it over, it is the best way to protect oneself. Being hurt is normal to experience because of love. However, it is not also healthy to remain in the same situation. Brokenhearted for a couple of times is not healthy especially if the person never learn something from it. With such desperation, a person can able to cope up and learn to love oneself unconditionally.
There are times that people cannot understand why a shattered person change into a different level. They changed to be a better person and renew of what was left behind because of being madly in love and forget their real identity. It cannot be denied that some people even forget others for the sake of loving someone. They were blinded to the real truth and in-denial at most. In the end, they lost their circle of friends and in vain after cutting the relationship with his or her partner.
It is a choice to be so martyr in a relationship but expects the consequences. The world with no one and hanging solely with the love problem. But then, this is a situation whereby a broken-hearted person will realize the importance of a support system. After being disconnected from people, it is worth to be with them again. Sometimes we think we are the millionaire! It means that we can’t buy anything. Everything is worth to be treasured. Life is not only fixated on someone. We need to keep socializing and maintain a good relationship with others.
We can still have two worlds at the same time. It can also refer to life-balance. If our life is in balance, then there is no way that happiness will be fulfilled. In every walks of life, challenges are always there. We don’t need to run away from it.
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I do not think so. One must learn to love himself first before he can love others.
It is definitely not selfish. A good friend asked me once how can you expect someone else to love you if you do not love yourself first.
Brilliant post, I enjoyed reading it.
I am feeling chuffed that you did like this article. I think we need to love oneself before sharing our love with others.
I definitely do not think is selfish because at the end of the day we want to be the best version of ourselves.
You have a point, It is always a good thing to experience it to have a new version of ourselves.
Loving yourself is not selfish. Maybe loving yourself for the wrong reasons, if that is even possible. However it is not possible to be good for another person if you do not first love yourself. Selfishness is when you put your own needs ahead of the needs of others unnecessarily. It is also not selfish to put your own needs first unless you do it at the expense of others. Live and be happy!
I agree. It is normal to be in denial. Moreover, it takes time to realize that we still need to love ourselves for any circumstances in life. Life is not like a bed of roses. We, humans, can still experience being loved but not in a mutual situation. That’s the bad thing though.
Your question: I Love Myself More: Is It Selfish? My answer is Yes. Every person who has experienced a loving relationship knows that selfishness can destroy that relationship. Sure! You have to love yourself. But you don’t have to love yourself selfishly! You can go “Me! Me! Me! Me!” But in the end, it will be “You! You! You! You!” and you’ll be all by yourself! If you don’t mind living this life alone and lonely, all by yourself, then go ahead and love yourself to pieces! LOL.
That sounds selfish indeed.lol I do think it should be balanced to live with others. Loving oneself is fine as long as you are not pulling others down.
I never put everything into a person. And I never love myself more than others.
I do agree with that. It should be balanced.
“Love yourself before loving others” is a principle, but loving yourself more than others means not successful yet or even failing to learn. Failure to learn in life is a failure to live.
Nicely said Albert, as always.
Thanks, Carol. Just a little say what I think is important.
… Failure to learn is a failure to live.
Perfectly said.
Thanks again, Carol. Learning is something that gives us valuable experience, wisdom, understanding, and meaning of life so if we fail to get it from life, it means we fail to live, right?
loving yourself to the exclusion of everything else is selfish; not loving yourself at all is foolish
That’s what I also think about it. Thanks c”,)
A wonderful post … Some people expect too much from others
I hope this article will come across to their minds.
Great post, thank you for sharing.
It’s my pleasure to share.
Thank you for reading it.
You cannot love others until you love yourself. No, I do not think it is selfish. It becomes selfish when all you care about is yourself and you end up hurting another.
I agree. It is not healthy to love oneself and took advantage of the weaknesses of others.
It has been also said that one can not love another until he loves himself.
I agree. It is not the right thing to love someone if he or she is not loving oneself.
Great post, thank you for sharing.
It’s my pleasure to share.
ooh Yeah Shavkat Keep it up.
People are all selfish to a certain extent, as long as its not too much or hurting I guess its ok.
Some people expect too much from others, they’ll call you selfish if you refuse to help them … but if you keep helping them, its draining you and it doesn’t really help them…
lol
There are always limitations in this world. That includes loving someone, especially if not being fair to other feelings.
Yes, I agree … that’s so true