Albert Herdianto Widjojo
Some banana trees, some of which are already fruiting and waiting for ripening, are overthrown by strong winds. Of course, nothing can be done for the tree or its raw fruit. Who can ask, let alone force nature with the wind to not bring down the trees? So, it is up to nature. Likewise with Lombok, Palu, Sigi, Donggala and other regions or other countries affected by natural disasters.
Have you ever been tired of talking, tired of arguing, tired of maintaining opinions that you thought were right, tired of showing what was important for someone or a group of people, bored being asked to give opinions about something even though that opinion was finally ignored because it was only a necessary procedure, tired of giving advice because those who ask for advice in the end always never heed it?
Have you ever managed to let go of all the worries that haunt and surrender to whatever is coming and must be faced?
Have you ever received an injustice, a false accusation that is very embarrassing because it is supported by those who have the power to drop or just accusations based on jealousy?
Have you ever experienced a fait accompli so that you are forced to fulfill or even let what is not desired to happen?
Well, in fact, many things can make us say “up to you”, from the mild, the pleasant, to the painful and even dangerous. That is the reason I wrote this article. At least for the past two days, I have realized that I often say that, both verbally and simply muttering in my mind, both to answer, “What do you want to eat, Dad?”, Or answer the argument of a manager who insists to question on a trivial matter which can spend time and energy rather than carrying out work programs that are important and increasingly urgent, or last; “It’s up to you. It happens to me according to your will. O Divine – O nature – O Higher Self.” because all the conditions that exist, which have happened, which cannot be avoided in any way must have certain lessons and meanings.
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Have you ever said “up to you” under certain conditions?
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Have you noticed what happened after saying that?
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SO, mUCH Great Post Like Before, Beautiful Grass Photo.. #Albert Bro you Not showing your photo? 😛
Thanks for always, my friend.
Umm… I still don’t have photos to show, Hamza. Hehehe…
I suspect the reality of human interaction is at play. People are motivated by their needs, not our needs. It would be so much easier if everyone were motivated by my needs ;-). Sometimes the best we can do is make sure the rocket we are riding doesn’t explode!
We are all driven by the ego, but there is always some people who ask too much. A better balance arises if people are also moved by empathy, compassion and caring, for the common good.
But indeed, the heat produced can greatly blow up our rockets if we are weak in learning.
I suspect all things being equal, there is not much we can do other than martial our compassion, share our empathy and hope others follow suit!
That’s all we can do, without expecting anything so we don’t need to be disappointed. Hehehe…
Expectations and disappointment are the worlds i live in every day!
Nahh… That’s our reality indeed.
I don’t like to argue, so I have strategies to avoid or prevent arguments…
Yeah. I have enjoyed your wisdom so far.
and I imagine you have ways to get out of arguments as well
Hahaha… Didn’t you see any distance between each letter and there is a space between each word?
you avoid arguments through the clever use of kerning?
Why not? At least the gaps are useful and at the same time is the doors to exit, right?
My god man, that’s dash cunning of you!
Well, if cancer can be avoided with nutritious herbs, why can’t the argument be avoided by the dash?
Leaving the room is a time honored way to avoid an argument
…and the exit doors are available…
Distract your opponent by looking behind them and muttering “what the hell is that?” then bail when they turn around…
or glared and pointed at his zipper and disappeared as he looked down.
That’s a good one, but I prefer to exit when my opponent is facing the other direction- it is more disorienting…
It is good, but maybe other alternatives are needed, in order the mode is unreadable and anticipated by the other person. Maybe it’s a good idea to learn from Dylan Rhodes.
what does Dylan have to say on the subject?
I have no idea. But that is the reason why we or I need to learn from him.
I don’t argue, I will express my point, explain my ideas and if still not okay…. I stop. and say ok it’s up to you… whatever happens from then on, I just don’t simply “show” concern. but of course I am concern.
I am so sure that you are a caring person and your reply firm it.
Yes I have often faced situations where I just give up and say “up to you to decide or act or make due etc.” or whatever that person wanted my opinion for. This is one of the many reason why I am (sorry to say this) slightly antisocial. I guess I give up too easily. But on another note, how are the little ones doing? Opened their eyes yet? Still just eating and sleeping?….
Sometimes certain situations have made us say that.
A bit strange for me, feels or enjoying your friendship, I don’t feel that You are slightly antisocial.
Owh… Those boy and girl doing great. Their eyes have opened, they begin to love to walking around even eating and sleeping still dominant.
Wait till they start playing, unfurling the toilet paper, going under the blankets, climbing the curtains etc. Little bundles of joy….
Yeah! I’m sure it won’t be long! They no longer want to sleep in their beds and always climb my bed.
I love to let others make choices! Up to you lol.
We have something in common about that. Well, up to you…
I probably have gone through something like that, just nothing that comes to mind at the moment. Thank you for sharing! And great photo too!
Yes, I think we all have gone through such a thing, but I just curious about what we think when we say it which of course depend on the situation when it happens.
Thanks for your thought and appreciation, Mommy.
When people say “Up to You” they are giving the other person freedom, and that most times helps situations of all kinds.
Yes, you are right, LaJenna. Sometimes we gave that answer to let them choose or decide something freely.
I often meet people who ask for the sake of asking or wanting to hear what they want.
And it sometimes is up to my mood to answer or just patronise them.
“Up to you.” is good for patronising or when it’s quite helpless/meaningless to say anything. LOL
You describe parts of such cases well.
Yep! Such short statements or answers contain many emotional conditions and intentions.
This is great to read Albert. So ironic that I am going through something very similar with a family member. I have tried for weeks to help her with an important issue only to go in circles as she has not told me everything about the issue to help resolve it. Long story short I decided to back away. And now the ball is in her court. I tried helping but without her complete participation I could not. As I got into helping her, she became more depends on me to solve it for her. I realized this and I am done. Funny to read hit post from you about the same thing, or at lest that is how I interpret what you are saying.
You’re right, Carol. What you say here are some cases of what I mean. Sometimes people can be very confusing and or dependent, often asking for help but we have to do it completely or they won’t do it at all. Very strange.
Yes, some are not willing to take on the responsibility of life itself.
Isn’t that so funny? Sometimes there are people who ask for a suggestion not in order to do what is suggested but so that someone does what they are supposed to do.