Albert Herdianto Widjojo
Last night, we finally decided to go out of town, my eldest daughter wanted a different lunch atmosphere to celebrate my wife’s birthday. My sister-in-law, my wife’s siblings, and her husband joined the group, and her daughter who lived in the city with her husband was waiting for us at a restaurant on the hill with open views, with a pale sky hanging above.
Cool and fresh air enlivened the luncheon, which was filled with jokes and laughter. In her thanks, my wife could make everyone confused for a moment. “Albert and I love each other, but we are not attached to each other.” My sister-in-law momentarily grabbed my wife’s arm so she would be careful with what she said, but my wife’s explanation finally made everyone understand what she meant. A few years ago, my wife even cried when I told her that for the first time.
“We are always together, especially in our heart, on almost every occasion we are always together, but we must not be too attached. One of us will definitely go home first, and it is not wise to make one of us grieve for too long. Being bound in the world is not a wise way for us to go home later”.
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I’m sure you know what my wife’s words mean, right?
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Q: I’M SURE YOU KNOW WHAT MY WIFE’S WORDS MEAN, RIGHT?
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Yes, you are wise, so true…. We are lent people they come and go…but it is hard sometimes…. However, I know the people I love are always in my heart… no matter what.
You are right, Pamela. People have been with us, and who are still with us, must be stored in memories, and that is good, but memories should not be a rope that binds us in the past or the world. I think that is a higher level of love, not binding those who are still alive, also not binding those who have passed away.
You can’t own a human being…Some people think they own you but it can’t be done unless they allow you to think that way but you soon find out the truth.
Unfortunately, not many people have a paradigm like you.
This is a great place to have a good time, dear Albert … if there is a good restaurant that is even better
This restaurant is very natural, both in terms of spatial planning, decoration, tableware, to the atmosphere around it. It’s very pleasant, dear friend.
We call such restaurants home-made inns where they have real home-made Slovenian food … they are usually decorated in a rustic style
I’m increasingly curious about your country!
Believe me, dear Albert … it is really small and without praise it is really beautiful and something special … it is one of the most visited countries in Europe and every year there is a growing number of tourists …. now it is the most Chinese …. Slovenian food and wines are praised by all
Your description of your country can affect my travel budget allocation, and hopefully, it will have a positive influence on the condition of my wife too, who is no longer able to make long-haul flights.?
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It’s a wonderful place to enjoy. I totally understand what your wife said. That’s nice to hear, but a little harder to do. I was already in that position. It was hard, but I’m enjoying life again today.
Yes, we really enjoy being there, dear friend.
Emotions are indeed an extraordinary force that is very influential on us, and if we can benefit appropriately it will surely bring great things to our lives, but if left to rule together with memories, emotions or feelings can bind us to things that are not necessary. But I’m happy with the good news, you are enjoying life again! It was great! Congratulation dear friend!
Thank you so much, dear friend. I agree. Emotions should not be allowed to guide our lives. This can be devastating to us. Although emotions can sometimes be very difficult to overcome, we have to work hard.
You are right, dear friend. We need emotions too, but emotions must not rule our lives.
I understand what your wife meant and she is right on what she said. I agree with her assertion.
Geez. I met many wise people here. You are amazing, dear friend.
Thanks. The statement sounds weird but when one thinks about it, one has to agree with it based on observation and experience.
You have all the basic reasons, dear friend.
Sounds like she had a wonderful Bday party. Lovely place, that view is incredible. Smart lady and comment. I do understand it.
All the words you have composed and put here are compliments, so I just have to be grateful and thankful, Kim.
Life, is a path. We walk the path at first alone, then if we are lucky with others. We must, when our path ends, let go of the world. But those that walk with us, must also be freed. They will continue to walk.
That’s it! You know very well what we mean, Doc. This is simple but not simple to understand, especially by feeling. All forms of attachment to the world will complicate life’s journey to the next stage.
it does, and it is incredibly hard. It took me a year to get past my father dying. Two years getting past my grandfather dying.
But, it is a noble goal!
When I was in high school, it took me three years to prepare myself and give up the “departure” of my ailing father, and however prepared we were, it turned out that when that day came, the loss felt heavy. But, as you have said, we must continue to live so we must be able to untie ourselves in order to move. So also later when we as souls want to move to another dimension, as much as possible has been released from all the bonds of the world.
Easier said than done. I sometimes wonder about this myself, but its tough.
Yep! That’s where we can see the gap between thoughts and feelings.
It’s easy to say but hard to do when you truly love someone. Love is accompanied by attachment. you and your wife are a wise couple. I do not know if I could not grieve if my husband would leave me first. I think it’s impossible. I would always miss him.
You’re right, my friend. Of course, I would also so sad if I lose her if she goes ahead of me. Grieving is a part of human feelings, we must grieve when we lose someone we love so much, but as many people say, our lives are now, not yesterday or later. Well, apparently those words are also easy to say but hard to do, right?
Another thing, a tight bond on earth will be hard to let go of by a soul going home. Ah, but that is difficult to talk about here…
I understand what she meant but … I’m afraid I can’t agree with what she says.(sorry)
It’s okay if you don’t agree, dear friend. Every now and then you have to have a different opinion with me…??
You are a lucky man to be blessed with a loving wife and lots of family. Enjoy!
Yes, I am, Carol. I have four siblings, and my wife has seven (four of them has passed away), besides, we both also have so many cousins…
Very funny comment, I don’t know that I would have said that, but I get the meaning.
We often discuss life and what true love is, one of the conclusions that he really understands is these words, and that often confuses many people.