Albert Herdianto Widjojo
Three hours ago, someone knocked on our door. When I opened the door, it turns out that the guest was a former colleague of my business a few years ago. The last time I met him was late last year. Right now he looks thin, tired, and lackluster. I no longer see his self-confidence, optimism, and his typical laughter with full of self-esteem.
After greeting, shaking hands, and hugging each other, he apologizes for coming unexpectedly without an appointment. When I invited him to sit, he immediately told the various problems he has experienced during the past year. Hearing the whole story, I feel very sorry. At the end of his story, he asks for suggestions that can make him accept wisely and graciously all he has experienced as he knows well that I ever have experienced similar problems, which are even more severe.
This friend, formerly well built and sturdy, whom I know is tough, full of faith, ambitious, dominant, and clever in searching for opportunities is now limp and weeping. I do not know if my thoughts can be accepted and understood since he used to refuse my views before. However, since he had indeed come to ask for my advice and thought, then I could not refuse. The point of some of my suggestions for him is that he allows time for himself to really rest and relax to let go of all the worries. I ask that he allow his mind and heart to heal. Avoid consuming products to forget about problems, anxiety, or anger. I ask him to not fight life but embrace life as it is if he really wants wisdom.
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Do you often think too much and worry about things?
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Are you able to release anxiety?
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Are your body, mind, and relationship affected by all the anxiety?
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Do you do something to overcome worries and anxiety? Please explain in the comments box.
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Anxiety is a problem for me when I am worried with something, i usually lose a lot of weight as it seems my body doesn’t process what I eat.
I think enough people lose weight when they have anxiety. What do you usually do to overcome anxiety, Nela?
hmm. Nice advice yeah Nice Post Thnxx You Albert for sharing with us 🙂
Thank you, Hamza. I hope you are always healthy, peaceful, and happy.
If something bothers me I start by asking myself if I will even remember the event a year from now. Helps put things in perspective…
That’s an impressive method, brother. Is it generally a year later you can forget the events that trigger the tension?
No, sometimes it is a season, or a month or a week, day, hour… If it is something I will not remember tomorrow, I generally blow it off
It’s good to share the way you blow off…
I think if you view most of the things in your life from the right perspective you’ll see they’re not worth getting upset over
I strongly agree with your opinion, but not everyone can do it.
I think it is a better way of life, and worth the effort it takes to get there
I try to do deep breathing exercises when i feel stressed, and pray a lot. Talking to friends! This is a post that everybody should read, and meditate on the meaning behind it.
You’ve done things that are useful to overcome stress. May you always be peaceful and happy.
I think, so many people have taken the nitty gritty and ignored it for granted, and assumed that it was easy to cope with just taking pleasure, taking supplements, alcohol or anything else while continuing to accumulate anxiety, anger, and disappointment.
I used to go scream in KTVs but realised my throat suffers lol
now I just watch shows/variety shows or write random stuffs or sometimes I draw…
but eventually these are not enough… probably didn’t find a really good way to de-stress yet…
more like distraction … sometimes, crying (my)your heart out helps …
That’s why I titled “To Heal” because as illness and drugs, the more severe the disorder, the greater the required dose. Of course we should be able to diagnose the cause and the level of anxiety first
for me it is a mix of meditation and relaxing…
Yes. We do need both to overcome anxiety, Doc.
Your last line was perfect advice. …”I ask him to not fight life but embrace life as it is if he really wants wisdom.” Very good advice you have to your friend. You should be honored that he had the confidence to knock on your door. That speaks volumes of your friendship.
For someone like you, my message may be easy to accept, but for those who are too pragmatic or opportunist, my advice may be considered too far or too much.
Of course, I am honored by his willingness to visit and ask my views.
Yes I do understand what you are saying. I hope you did help him.
Of course, Carol. I hope he can get out of the mess and from all the anxiety and stress.