Ghostwriter
Welcome to the Simple Solutions Series. I need to make major changes and I require that to be simple. Iti s possible with a little creativity to simplify .
I live in a stressful household. It’s the illness, the work in the home and life in general. I need to learn to calm quickly. After much research , the quickest way to calm the body and stop the anxiety is deep and regulated breathing.
It’s breathe in through the nose , hold and slowly exhale through the mouth . This does not feel natural or normal to me. I have to concentrate to make it happen. And when I do it the process correctly, I calm down.
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Do you use breathing techniques to calm yourself?
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Will you share other simple solutions to calm down?
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I also calm myself down with deep breathing the fastest. Sometimes I withdraw for a few minutes to the garden.
Not one solution works all the time. I think creativity helps me a lot, to focus on what I am doing…
Oh wow! That word creativity really hit home. Why have I never walked away and done something creative to calm my nerves? You need to expand on this! I want to learn more please!
Yes, in my creativity challenge I put out a few different things to try, but writing is creativity, photography is creativity, a lot of things are creative..
Since I am all alone I have created a speech for myself. When I feel anything but calm and I get rather excited about something I stand in front of my mirror. I ask myself Do you look all right? Yes. Are you going to die? No. Are there people who are worse of than yourself? Yes. Then do you really have a reason to get upset? No. Then calm down and go and get things done and after that pep, up talk I am fine again just some edges got blurry
@RasmaSandra I really must share this with you. My husband is sitting here today reading with me. (He’s trying to be kind to me.) He read your response and this is what he had to say. “Well, you are kind of alone because we really don’t listen to much of what you say and we remember even less. Maybe we could ask her to write a couple of speeches for you!”
How about it? Want to write some for me?
lol I am not good at speech writing but I do remember the saying my late husband used to say to himself each morning to get ready for the day and to feel good about himself. He stood in front of the mirror put on a big smile and said Every day in every way you are getting better and better
My calming solution is to divert my attention and focus on something else.
How to you decide what to diver to Alex?
I listen to songs, read a book or stay by myself.
I can get lost in music pretty easily.
walking or mediation for me. Carol is right, find the path for you!
Good ideas. I guess maybe I need a whole toolbox. I think I require different choices. Does that make any sense?
it does – I find it best to have multiple solutions to problems!!!!
You have to find whatever method woks for you. Deep breathing does it for me. Others have to walk, just try different things.
I guess nothing it completely consistent, so perhaps variety is a good choice.
I use visualization. I am calm most of the time, I don’t have use for it now, but back in those days it did help me a lot. Now I talk positively to myself.
Can you explain to me what you mean by visualization Dawn?
Walking alone with my thoughts also calm me down.
That does make sense. Sometimes it’s my thoughts I am trying to leave behind.