Albert Herdianto Widjojo
I remember when and how my father taught me to attach and tie shoelaces. He has taught me a number of ways at once depending on the type of shoes, sneakers or boot, and how to make the knot well so it doesn’t come off easily, which also adjusts to the length of the shoelace.
After I was old enough to understand, I realized that the way we tie shoelaces would be a habit that could become a habit for life. Because my father is an army that uses many types of shoes, apparently he has taught me from the very beginning to bind well and effectively. In fact, I see many friends who tie shoelaces in different ways and absolutely do not want to change the way they tie even though it looks tidy, ineffective and easily detached.
More mature I realize that changing habits is very difficult, even if we know a better way and various reasons. It could be a new, more effective way to tie your shoelaces will feel unnatural and abnormal, not because it’s wrong but just because it’s against your current habits. Such difficulties require to unlearn and relearn that requires persistence. It’s much easier to teach a habit for people who don’t know a way than to change a person’s habits in a way, in any case, in any habits.
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Do you have a special way to tie shoelaces?
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Interesting point. I learned to tie shoe laces our NZ traditional way but the hockey boots slightly different.
You make me curious about “NZ traditional way”…
Users voted 9 times.
Q: Do you have a special way to tie shoelaces?
Yes (4 votes) – 44%
No (5 votes) – 56%
Q: Have you ever changed the way you tie your shoes?
Yes (2 votes) – 22%
No (7 votes) – 78%
Q: Is there a habit that is very difficult for you to change?
Yes (8 votes) – 89%
No (1 votes) – 11%
It’s good to know that you are someone who is willing to change or adapt even knowing that it definitely takes perseverance and time. While you and I may see many people who are difficult or reluctant to do it.
I used to always tie my shoes with the one tie method lol. Now-days the shoe strings are so long I have to tie them with a double tie lol. Some changes in life are necessary for mature growth, but some ways touch our hearts in a special way, so that is the kind of habits to hold onto.
As long as we know what needs to be changed or adjusted and what must be maintained, I think it’s good and wise.
leopard never changes its spots … that explains how hard it is … its like DNA restructure lol
I sleep late … this habit really die hard
Considering the position of our two countries that are close together and my time part in my own country, it looks like your time and mine are very close, and that means we have the same habits.
Lol… as my friend say “the ghosts that flies around at night” :p
Lol… as my friend say “the ghosts that flies around at night” :p
Welcome to the club 🙂
Thank you for your welcome. Btw, who is the owner of this club? Who knows he/she is willing to serve us a cup of coffee.
That’ll take a while to find out but I think they prefer alcohol and the red drink … tomato juice ??? hmm…
Hmmm… Is this some kind of vampire club?
Not sure, we’re told to look for the neck …
That’s why I feel that you are eyeing my neck!
Neatness and orderliness. I have changed somehow when I started living with the witches but not totally. I still want things to be neat and orderly that I am labeled as OC in the fam ?
Your fuss is a milestone that still stands tall in its place. Maybe the direction of the sun has shifted its shadow from totally cerewet position bec?me wise cerewet.
That fuss is the shadow where I linger I think that is causing me not to reach the mountain yet. A dream of mine signified full receptivity to intuition but incapable of fully trusting. I guess I need to unwire more logic and go more with the blue fog of mysticism ? a scary road for a cerewet, yes?
So far, through all our discussions, it seems I still remember your various perspectives. Reading your comments this time, I can only remember about the best actions if we want to be helped easily when drowning, which is not struggling and quiescent.?
The business of knowing the self is not an easy one, my friend. Now I understand why the Christian preacher, who was once a seeker, told me it is a lonely road full of confusion. He was right. And remembering how stubborn and almost cocky I was towards him back then makes me want to regret my cockiness ? (not my choice though). The preacher may have only good intention and I was being a pixie because I do not appreciate being told what to do and not to do.
Who encouraged you not to appreciate what to do ?r not do?
Duh! I was referring to the preacher who, I realized much later, being a preacher, was only doing his role to preach. I should have cooperated and feigned being an angel ????
But that’s n?t what happened, isn’t it?
That is a good saying, and I strongly agree. It will be more difficult if the habit has become a character.
Haits are all difficult to change 🙂 They are habits!
I think for me the hardest is to let go. I can’t always just let things slide past me!
That’s the habit, indeed. Especially if the habit has become a mindset.
Mindsets vs habits now that is a raging argument waiting to happen!
No one ever admits to a mindset, just a bad habit I can break!
I don’t understand what you mean about the raging argument between mindsets vs habits, Doc. Would you explain please?
As you usually try to remind, is the tendency of someone to think negatively, complain, and a number of other attitudes is not a form of habit?
mindsets become the negative
Habits become the positive
They are the nexus of disagreement.
My wife is a social worker, she doesn’t call them Mindsets or Habits. She calls them traits (personal) and conditions (personal)
That’s an interesting perspective, but I am still wonder, don’t the four have different definitions and each also has two sides?
They do, but sometimes you have to change the conversation by changing the words.
I also commit the shoelaces to the classical way … so they have taught me, and so I’m plotting them … even when I buy new co-operatives I first shift the shoelaces
Apparently, you are an adaptive person with change, dear friend.
I know that some of the habits are difficult to change, especially in the elderly. We have a saying: Habits it’s an iron shirt
That is a good saying, and I strongly agree. It will be more difficult if the habit has become a character.
I agree. Then there may be problems
Worrying is a habit I work on and I am getting better at not doing it so much.
Exactly, Carol. Worrying might be among the most difficult to change, it also happened to my wife.
Yes and I think of your wife often and hope she is improving.
My wife, she is very logical, does not like and is afraid to see and experience supernatural things but that often happens to her. She has been able to accept that but things like that also provide more vision and experience.