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Keep the Embers Burning

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In many chats after much training, it was revealed that so many participants had problems with their partners. Without mentioning the variants that cause these problems, what I want to convey is that if I can analogize that romance as an ember, things that burn or warmth the closeness, then the most important thing is how it stays burning, forever.

The problem that most often arises is the condition “normal”, meaning after all this time with everything has become a routine without fire. Cold, saturated, even much who does such as holding a time bomb. Priorities have shifted away from feeling to other things. Problems also occur when they place the priority of having a family, that the main and main families are families with spouses and children no longer the original family let alone friends who are strangers. Many assume that the person who is most guilty of freezing or burn the hell of their conflict is their partner.

There are also those who persevere to stay together so that they remain as a partner for the sake of children and a positive image in the community even though they no longer need to keep the embers burning because they are in the fire all the time.

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Written by Albert Herdianto Widjojo

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  2. Friendship is an ongoing thing and always learning new things…marriage is like that too…I am not an expert on relationships but I think it is always good to be open to learn from others while being challenged to do things you have not done before.
    Like yesterday I am no carpenter but spent 2 hours constructing an art table on wheels from a kit set and had no idea what I was doing but it worked….Good point in your post.
    No one wants the same thing all the time

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  3. Friendship is an ongoing thing and always learning new things…marriage is like that too…I am not an expert on relationships but I think it is always good to be open to learn from others while being challenged to do things you have not done before.
    Like yesterday I am no carpenter but spent 2 hours constructing an art table on wheels from a kit set and had no idea what I was doing but it worked

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    • The glowing ember is a good spirit to maintain the warmth of all positive motives of a relationship, of course, friendship and openness too.
      You have proven that the willingness, experience, and the pleasure to do something can give us inner satisfaction while realizing our other potential.

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  5. The only way to keep embers burning is to have atleast a few common interests and give space for each other Too much of togetherness can spell disaster.

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      • There are exceptions to every rule I guess. Also it depends on the intensity of togetherness. It is not my creation but that is how it normally works. And it also depends on individuals Some do need space and get smothered if that space is not given to them.

        To each their own.

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        • You are right, it all depends on each partner, who really depends on how they made a commitment from the start, how deeply they understand each other, and how strong the determination to maintain a relationship with all the conditions that exist.

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          • I have discussed this issue both in the real and virtual world.

            There is nothing called commitment. It all starts from day one, after those two words ‘I do’ are uttered. It is a new world and all those commitments made earlier to that may not withstand what actually is in store for both. And therefore they have to be prepared for anything that confronts them and stick to the vow they made ‘for better or for worse…………’

          • Wish that was true for every one. Things change, situations change, so many things change and it is not rocket science to know that changes occur. It is the deterimination to make it work come what way is the secret. But sadly not everyone follows that path and that you know very well.

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        • For me, there is no absolute right or wrong in understanding life and the living, and we must find the truth itself, not from the knowledge we can get from advice or books but from our own experiences and proofs. The more successful you prove your way, the more validated your principles.

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  6. Because men are from Mars and women are from Venus. I just helped a couple sort out their differences exactly because of this issue you raised. That I understand the issue more than the concerned couple do is a source of amusement for a pixie like me ?. Luckily, with my charm and silver dust and all, I believe they are on their way to rekindling the dying embers ?

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    • I am sure you are very capable of handling such issues, especially because at a certain point in your cycle, you are a very wise nun in giving advice and solving problems.?
      What’s more, now you have charm and are good at using it!?

      • To be honest, instead of my charm, I like to use my wand more to bang their heads. Maybe that will work better too ?. Hey, I am glad to see you back and keeping the embers in your life burning. Prayers to you and your family ??

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        • Using a wand might be a good way too, you just have to make sure that your magic isn’t too strong for them.

          I am also happy to see you and your various miracles here, sis. Actually, my ember never extinguished, maybe sometimes not clearly seen because the fog is too thick around me.

  11. We have a number of “separate” and a number of “joint” hobbies. On Saturday afternoon (sometimes Sunday) we take the time to do our joint hobbies. Right now it is mostly movies. In the summer it can be boating, or just going out on a long walk!

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