I have learned many lessons after losing my child years ago. It takes being knocked down sometimes to get a different perspective on life. I could talk all day on this quote and that one, but I will not. I will only say that if you know of someone who has lost a child, no matter how long it has been, acknowledge their loss. Talk about their lost loved one. If you did not know them, ask the grieving parent about them. We (grieving parents) long for others to mention our child’s name.
As I lose more and more of my family members, I have fewer people who knew my dear son. I have to hold tight to the memories. I do this every day. Time matters not when you lose a child. It sort of stands still. One of the hardest parts of the “process” is seeing life continue for everyone else when your world has been shattered. The sun will always come up tomorrow. The birds continue to sing. Life goes on. But not for you. At least not the same life. You are forever changed.
Many of the sunsets I take from my deck take me closer to my son. I can feel his presence as I watch the sun set. Cannot really explain the feeling but it is there nonetheless. And of course the bluebirds, butterflies, so many things remind me of Dustin. I am thankful for the 16 years I had with him. It would have never been long enough, you never want to lose your child, no matter their age. Remember my words when you are having a bad day. Things can always, always be worse. I will leave you with a beautiful sunset taken from my deck. The entire sky was lit up red. It was gorgeous to watch. And I watched until the sun was completely gone. Tomorrow will be another day. Another chance for peace and hope.
…”Keep your face always toward the sunshine and your shadows will fall behind you.” ~Walt Whitman