My wife told me that one of her friends had decided to separate from her husband after he was proven to be having an affair. It is unfortunate indeed considering that they have been together for more than twenty years. “It should!” she said to my wife.
“I must make that decision and file a divorce suit tomorrow.” she continued. It was a tough decision indeed, therefore my wife’s choice at that time was to listen to her vent and calm her down.
Must, is a word that I often pay attention to when spoken by someone in the context of a particular situation, especially if in the next words there is a sentence that more or less means “life is a choice”. Somehow, I consider that “must” and “choose” are very different. If we are in a “must” means we have no choice while to choose means we have several choices that require consideration.
I also remember the reason for my niece’s colleague who disappeared a few days when they need to taking care of a legal case that was being faced by their company. When her partner returned, he said “I must watch my sister’s graduation in Jogja” as the reason why he left without saying anything before. That statement means that he has no choice and consequently does not consider the tension and urgency of the situation of the problem they are facing and the importance of him being there with his colleagues.
Must? Who requires it? On the other hand, I see that we often choose A & B as hope or wish but life offers C, D, and E, for example, to be chosen, then is it not a choice in a “must”? Who actually puts things before us and we have to choose? Then what about life is a choice?
Are you fully convinced that the life you are living right now is really your choice?