Carol DM
Just sharing a quote about how when I post about Dustin, or other family I have lost, it is not to get sympathy. It is to keep their memory alive.
When you lose someone all you have left are memories. When others stop talking about them, you feel sometimes that you are losing them completely.
As long as you can hear others speak their name, and talk about them in any way, or even writing about them, as some will do on this site, you are keeping their memory alive.
Of course Dustin, and other family members will always be in my heart. It helps to share moments and for others to talk about them. I never want them to be forgotten.
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Question of
Do you enjoy sharing about loved ones you have lost?
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Yes
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No
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Would you rather not talk about those you have lost?
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Yes
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Wonderful point of view and very wise words! I tend to bottle things up, but there are indeed times that I just want to share and I don’t even need any reaction or feedback.
Thanks, I have learned a lot over the years.
This is a Great to See.
I totally agree with you. It’s great to be remembered and appreciated.
I always love to think about loved ones, and yes I sometimes write about them here. I am glad you share Justin with us, thank you. I totally agree with what you have said here. 🙂
Sharing Dustin is something I will always do, it is healing to me, but I understand others have their own way of coping.
Drats, I did it again. I always say Dustin instead of Justin and visa versa. My son has a friend that is Justin. I practically raised him, and I still call him Dustin. I told him I was just going to change his name.
And yes, true. We do have our own way of coping. Personally my family does not like the way I handle grief. When my dad passed, I closed the resort, shut off the phone and went camping for two weeks. They sure did get mad at me. It was my way though, dad and I loved the outdoors, and that was our time. No one should tell anyone how they should handle this. I just wanted to say, I like your way, it’s how I got to know you.
I think its a personal choice. I very rarely write about my loved ones, but I respect those who want to share their memories.
It definitely is a personal choice, no doubt Dawn.
Definetly think you should talk about them, they were part of your life and you treasure them
It is all about what each person chooses, it is therapeutic for me to talk about him.
It is good to be carrying the positive memories left behind by those who have gone on a heavenly abode.
I agree and will always talk about my son.
Everyone has its own way how to deal with memories of loved ones who are no longer with us. I think everyone understands it and respects it. Even if someone dies, it does not mean that memories should be full of sadness and pain of loss. It can still bring light to our lives. Because they are alive inside us, and there is a heart full of love to them.
Yes, it is a personal choice for sure Fortune. I have moments of sadness and happiness, sometimes at the same time. A roller coaster of emotion.
The main thing is we all know this and respect each other.
Sadness and memories are accepted by everyone. Everyone has their own way or view. In my opinion, we have to get this out of ourselves somehow.
You know I agree with you. And we all respect each other while we find our own way on this journey.
Those who hold in the pain will never heal.
I enjoy sharing memories of those I loved and who passed on it is a great way of bringing them back for a while
That is a great point, and having someone who has been there to share with helps as well.
I’m the exact opposite of you, dear Carol …. I don’t want to share my sad moments …. I think this is my personal thing I have to deal with myself
We are all different and I respect our differences. Also, there is almost always differences in the way males and females deal with issues.
I totally agree with you, my dear friend … we are different and it is right and I also respect your choices and sympathize with you …. if everyone were the same life would be boring
Forgot to add this post is being shared with Alibb’s Alphabet Crazy challenge.
And I replied to comments that disappeared again.