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Just sharing a quote about how when I post about Dustin, or other family I have lost, it is not to get sympathy. It is to keep their memory alive.

When you lose someone all you have left are memories. When others stop talking about them, you feel sometimes that you are losing them completely. 

As long as you can hear others speak their name, and talk about them in any way, or even writing about them, as some will do on this site, you are keeping their memory alive.

Of course Dustin, and other family members will always be in my heart. It helps to share moments and for others to talk about them. I never want them to be forgotten.

  • Question of

    Do you enjoy sharing about loved ones you have lost?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Would you rather not talk about those you have lost?

    • Yes
    • No

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Written by Carol DM

26 Comments

  1. Wonderful point of view and very wise words! I tend to bottle things up, but there are indeed times that I just want to share and I don’t even need any reaction or feedback.

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  2. I always love to think about loved ones, and yes I sometimes write about them here. I am glad you share Justin with us, thank you. I totally agree with what you have said here. 🙂

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      • Drats, I did it again. I always say Dustin instead of Justin and visa versa. My son has a friend that is Justin. I practically raised him, and I still call him Dustin. I told him I was just going to change his name.
        And yes, true. We do have our own way of coping. Personally my family does not like the way I handle grief. When my dad passed, I closed the resort, shut off the phone and went camping for two weeks. They sure did get mad at me. It was my way though, dad and I loved the outdoors, and that was our time. No one should tell anyone how they should handle this. I just wanted to say, I like your way, it’s how I got to know you.

  3. Everyone has its own way how to deal with memories of loved ones who are no longer with us. I think everyone understands it and respects it. Even if someone dies, it does not mean that memories should be full of sadness and pain of loss. It can still bring light to our lives. Because they are alive inside us, and there is a heart full of love to them.

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  4. Sadness and memories are accepted by everyone. Everyone has their own way or view. In my opinion, we have to get this out of ourselves somehow.

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  5. I’m the exact opposite of you, dear Carol …. I don’t want to share my sad moments …. I think this is my personal thing I have to deal with myself

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      • I totally agree with you, my dear friend … we are different and it is right and I also respect your choices and sympathize with you …. if everyone were the same life would be boring
         

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