Ghostwriter
So with the changes in Virily I was wandering around and ran into many, many, many posts that were so horrible no ever bothered to comment. It made me very sad. I can’t believe I spent so much time on many unseen and uncommented posts. Did I stay here just out of pure stubbornness?
I have made a few friends here, but going back through I see not very many. I can’t say that it feels like I ever really belonged. I am certainly feeling very insecure. My job, my relationships, my mental health, and my physical health all seem to be deteriorating at the same time. It kind of feels like I am rolling down a neverending mountain made of very sharp boulders. Yes, that is exactly the feeling I am getting.
There is absolutely no blame here. I take full responsibility. I just need to figure out where I am and if I belong. Often times I wonder if I belong anywhere. Maybe I am meant to be a lone wolf. Perhaps I have felt that way since my mother died.
To those of you who are kind, thoughtful and helpful I appreciate your support and comments.
It’s okay to feel sad, you have just went through a great loss. I wouldn’t even talk about my dad passing for years it was just too painful.
About the belonging, you do belong, and that’s coming from me. 😉 Bet you never thought you would hear me say that. We had our differences in the beginning, but we have shown how you can make up and be friends. I read what the others have said, and they are all hold very good advice. Time will make things easier.
Thanks Kim_Johnson. To be honest, I don’t remember the problems and I guess that’s a good thing! That must mean I finally understood who you are and realized what an amazing person you are. My husband is always asking what new challenge is Kim doing now? I make him read lol.
It was nothing really. I think I said something catty to you actually and you called me on it. Imagine such a thing. 😉 And it was the first month you were here.
I knew your hubby liked the find the difference ones and the find the object ones. I miss doing those. Thank you for the compliment above, you made me smile!
The pain and sadness will soon pass… you don’t have to stay in one place… move forward.
Lost I am. I find myself going in circles. Perhaps I need a straight line.
That was very sad but very real. Thank you for letting us into what you are feeling. I can understand that. I have felt like that not here because I am not here enough, but, in real life. I am still trying to find my journey. I hope you are successful in finding yours.
Sometimes it helps just to say it out loud and let others know.
sorry about how you feel, but that sense of belonging comes from deep within. Sometimes the outside world really doesn’t care, so it is up to us to feel like we belong somewhere.
Kind of like bloom where you are planted?
Sorry for your loss. It can be tough but hang on anyway.
All I can do is try and take some positive steps every day!
I am sorry you are feeling so bad. Sorry for the loss of your mum. Hope you decide to stay in Virily. Ignore the bad posts. Mine are positive!!!
I think everyone is trying very had to be positive here and I so appreciate that.
I think you should go slow. Some days are depressing and one issue might affect another. We are a community, there to help each other.
Go slow, I am not sure what that means. Perhaps stop and think about things more?
Yes, don’t rush decisions because later you might have realized what you had thought was not the case. I have been learning this the tough way.
Ahhh, I get it now. That is very solid advice, thank you.
we have to be a community or there is no value here.
but, you belong in my community!
I appreciate that DocAndersen. I am trying to make sense of a senseless world! lol.
so am I and honestly, you help me every day with every post.
We’re all here to have fun. To help each other, though only virtually, when one has a problem. When someone falls, we help him to become. And most importantly to know that there are many friendly shoulders that you can lean on. Relax, rest and the next day you will be a new person. I know it from experience.
Thank you lacho59. I will take a few deep breathes and forge ahead. You make an excellent point.
Sorry to hear about the way you feel. I agree with Alibb, there’s room for everyone here. Our differences are what makes it interesting.
It’s all fine. Some days feel better than others in this old word.
That’s true. I hope the better ones prevail.
I’m not sure, I haven’t been around much …
but I don’t expect much about the quality of the posts here, not that the users can’t write one but that Virily is not a site for gurus only … so everyone can post anything they’re interested in, even if it’s just about an ant that fell into their cup LOL
Anyway, just chill and take a break whenever you’re feeling overwhelm. 🙂
Did an ant fall in your cup? Did you rescue it? Did you accidently swallow it?
LOL. Ant does get into my cup once in a while …
sometimes I do accidentally drink them.
But when I was a kid, I do try to catch one and put in in my drink because I was told that drinking ants will make you climb better … LOL
It’s funny, we truly believe everything they tell!
I wonder if its naive or innocent LOL :p
I feel the same, and I feel many others do as well. We all have to make the choice when we are at a crossroad in our lives. What is priority, what is not. A personal choice.
You belong here as much as the other members. I just hope we can all stay together and things will improve here really soon.
It would be nice. Sometimes it makes me feel more lonely here. That probably sounds odd. When someone says don’t bother reading my stuff I had to make a mental adjustment on that one as well. I guess my comments and ideas are not worthy of that person. That reminds me of a song!
I will have to post it!
Looking forward to your next post. 🙂