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Sad but True

So with the changes in Virily I was wandering around and ran into many, many, many posts that were so horrible no ever bothered to comment. It made me very sad. I can’t believe I spent so much time on many unseen and uncommented posts. Did I stay here just out of pure stubbornness? 

I have made a few friends here, but going back through I see not very many.  I can’t say that it feels like I ever really belonged.  I am certainly feeling very insecure. My job, my relationships, my mental health, and my physical health all seem to be deteriorating at the same time. It kind of feels like I am rolling down a neverending mountain made of very sharp boulders.  Yes, that is exactly the feeling I am getting.

There is absolutely no blame here. I take full responsibility. I just need to figure out where I am and if I belong. Often times I wonder if I belong anywhere. Maybe I am meant to be a lone wolf. Perhaps I have felt that way since my mother died. 


What do you think?

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  1. It’s okay to feel sad, you have just went through a great loss. I wouldn’t even talk about my dad passing for years it was just too painful.
    About the belonging, you do belong, and that’s coming from me. 😉 Bet you never thought you would hear me say that. We had our differences in the beginning, but we have shown how you can make up and be friends. I read what the others have said, and they are all hold very good advice. Time will make things easier.

    • Thanks Kim_Johnson. To be honest, I don’t remember the problems and I guess that’s a good thing! That must mean I finally understood who you are and realized what an amazing person you are. My husband is always asking what new challenge is Kim doing now? I make him read lol.

      • It was nothing really. I think I said something catty to you actually and you called me on it. Imagine such a thing. 😉 And it was the first month you were here.
        I knew your hubby liked the find the difference ones and the find the object ones. I miss doing those. Thank you for the compliment above, you made me smile!

  2. That was very sad but very real. Thank you for letting us into what you are feeling. I can understand that. I have felt like that not here because I am not here enough, but, in real life. I am still trying to find my journey. I hope you are successful in finding yours.

  3. sorry about how you feel, but that sense of belonging comes from deep within. Sometimes the outside world really doesn’t care, so it is up to us to feel like we belong somewhere.

  4. We’re all here to have fun. To help each other, though only virtually, when one has a problem. When someone falls, we help him to become. And most importantly to know that there are many friendly shoulders that you can lean on. Relax, rest and the next day you will be a new person. I know it from experience.

  5. I’m not sure, I haven’t been around much …
    but I don’t expect much about the quality of the posts here, not that the users can’t write one but that Virily is not a site for gurus only … so everyone can post anything they’re interested in, even if it’s just about an ant that fell into their cup LOL

    Anyway, just chill and take a break whenever you’re feeling overwhelm. 🙂

  6. I feel the same, and I feel many others do as well. We all have to make the choice when we are at a crossroad in our lives. What is priority, what is not. A personal choice.

    You belong here as much as the other members. I just hope we can all stay together and things will improve here really soon.


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