Some people use the word “punishment”. In my opinion, the more appropriate word is “discipline”. The most appropriate phrase is “discipline with love”.
If you are a new parent you may have combed through the pages of hundreds of books and magazines and/or scoured the Internet searching for advice on raising children. The hardest question to find the answer to is regarding the proper form of punishment.
On this topic, the “experts” are clearly divided. Some say physical punishment is a must. Some say talking to the child is best. Some say take away their “goodies” or privileges. ALL say their advice is right and it works … perfectly.
If only we lived in a perfect world and everybody in the world was perfect.
I’m no expert, but I can share some observations.
Every parent is different. Every parent was raised by parents or primary caretakers. They were either raised well (or believe they were raised well) and want to employ the same techniques and methods of child-rearing their parents used when they were growing up. Or they want to NOT raise their children the way they were raised.
Every child is different. An effective warning or punishment that might work for one child might make another child even more daring and defiant.
When children come into this world, their mind is a blank slate. They trust the ones charged with caring for them, to look out for them completely ~ mind and body, soul and spirit. They look to the influential adults in their life and expect them to keep them from harm or danger, and to nurture/guide them and teach/instruct for their own good.
Whatever the disciplinary method or “punishment” used by the parent or primary caretaker, the child must clearly understand ITS PURPOSE.
The parent needs to communicate that there is no intention of harming or injuring them, that there is no desire to be mean and withhold good things from them, etc. In fact, it’s just the opposite. You don’t want to see them hurt. You only want what is good for them. You want them to grow up, to be happy, and to repeat the cycle of enjoying a wonderful life!
Agree or Disagree.
Do you have observations to share?