Carol DM
I have a dear friend who has two types of incurable cancer. She has been in the hospital for two weeks and has lost 40 pounds. She comes home today. But Hospice comes with her. Her doctor has given her at the most, two weeks to live. I know doctors do not know it all but I know her end is near. It breaks my heart. A helpless feeling. The same feeling when I lost my Dad. You do all you know to do, then there is nothing left but wait. You hold their hand. You tell them how much they mean to you. And that is all you can do. Life is unfair at times. I do not understand but maybe one day I will.
Photo courtesy of Pixabay. I found this photo and it is how I want to think. She has tried for over a year fighting this monster called cancer. It seems to be winning now. But she is still breathing, so for now I will spend as much time with her as possible. Never take your loved ones for granted. You just never know what the next moment may bring.
I am continuing with the 365 Photos Challenge and I am now on Day 107.
There are some things we cannot change, and it can be terribly difficult to accept this sometimes. Holding someone’s hand and making sure they feel valued and loved is sometimes the only thing left, but its importance should not be underestimated. Your friend is lucky to have you, you big-hearted woman.
Absolutely Norman, you know as well as I do. I have been there for her and she just smiles at me, we have a strong bond. Her family is there now from New York and Florida so I will give her time with them for now.
On some level, our friends are always with us
Yes you are right Alex, friends and loved ones are forever in our hearts.
In many ways, we are never truly alone
I try to believe that to have a peaceful mindset.
No, really. Didn’t you know that you are totally covered in microorganisms? Billions of tiny little friends who go will spend their whole lives with you and wherever you go, they go too!
So don’t feel lonely, you are literally the life of the party
You are so cool Alex, thanks for always being you.
I’m sorry to hear that your friend is going through this! You are a wonderful friend who’s there for her even when life is hard. Thinking of you both
Thank you Ellie, I am there for her as much as I can be.
Life belongs to the owner, as well as the change. We always feel sad for such conditions but the secrets and mysteries have been and will always teach us many things. Accompanying, being with someone we love in her life is a blessing for her but also a great opportunity for us to study again and again. I am proud and amazed at your kindness, Carol.
Thank you Albert. It is heartbreaking but I am learning to accept what I cannot change.
That’s a wise attitude and perspective, Carol, for happiness and peace do not come from what we hold tightly but what we release freely…
I have learned over the years Albert, it never gets easier but I have tools in my toolbox to use now.
nice beautiful pictures
I’m sorry to hear that and I hope you love for her will help her through and win the battle no matter how small the chance.
I’ve lost a cousin to cancer. She is only 21. She has fought hard for 2 years and I’m glad that her suffering ended. I know she’ll be at a better place.
Thank you alibb. Life can be so unfair and throw us all curve balls. We have to learn to roll with it. I too know she will be in a better place.
That’s true, we’ve to learn to roll with it … well, curve balls aren’t all bad, it increases your exp points and helps capture of pokemon better if you play Pokemon go. :p
Yes you are right my friend. Life is not always fair.
Great post, thank you for sharing!
End of life here is hard to appreciate. I hope the pain stops when the spirit goes home.
Thank you Trenna. I hope so too.
The photo is perfect for the meaning behind this post. That is a sad story and I am sorry for you, and all concerned.But i have learned to try to be thankful for what is left for me on this world
Thanks, and you are right, you have to think about yourself.
my dad was released from the hospital, he was 49 years old.2 and 57 kg ……. they said that the end …. that he had a month left his life ….. he lived 7 years after That ……. he had a strong will for life, positive thoughts
That is encouraging. And I am so sorry for your loss Branka.
I lost my sister from this terrible disease. She was just 55 years old. We have remained powerless. We could not help with anything. I’m sorry about your girlfriend.
I am so sorry Elenka. So young. Too young. She has been a great friend and my next door neighbor, always there for me.
I understand you dear Carol. But the only thing you can do is be with her.
Thank you, I know and I plan to do this.
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend, that would be so tough to go through…for both her and those who care about her….Thinking of you both
Thank you Courtney it is such a helpless feeling. There is nothing anybody can do. Cancer is a horrible disease. Thank you. I also worry about her husband.
I agree that it would be….I’ve never lost anyone close to cancer….but I have in other ways….it is a very horrible disease, so sad that it happens. Yeah, losing your spouse…can’t imagine how difficult that would be…
Yes, I lost my first cousin to melanoma at age 21. So sad.
I think they have been married at least 60 years.
That is sad, I’m sorry to hear that….and oh wow 60 years? That would be so hard to lose your partner of 60 years! I can’t even imagine….
By the way, the cute little chick photo is a card I actually received from a friend after losing my Dad.