Ghostwriter
I never in a million years would have believed you if you had told me I would say that about one of my grandsons, and today I said it right out loud.
One of the boys knows exactly what he wants to do with his life. He has a plan. He knows what kind of money he makes. He knows what he wants to do with his life and even the area in which he wants to live.
The other child knows that he wants to be happy. That is a far as it goes. In other words one has some goals and ambition and the other is just happy to be alive and in the “now”.
It’s not that either of them is wrong. It is almost to have similar conversations about what we are going to do next weekend because one needs a detailed plan with a purpose and the other needs to know there will be food and some kind of fun. Those two polar opposites doesn’t bode well for planning. I don’t care which way we go, and we can’t seem to please both of them! I respect their different decisions, it’s just hard when one wants it sets in stone and one wants to go with the flow where ever it leads.
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Question of
Do you try to please everyone?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Do you ever give up and just do your own thing?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Is your family life complicated?
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Yes
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No
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I try my best to do good every one,if other thought wrong, I don’t care,If I am fair then I let every matter on GOD.
My sons are exactly the way you described your grandsons, but we enjoy both and we always find a way to do things together.
The complicated reality that is my family right now (we have a wedding in less than 35 days) is beyond stressful.
We do what we do. With twins, I often watch them and wonder exactly that question! why are you not more like your twin?
You do have so much going on. I should just be happy all we really have is illness and normal life.
As the old Chinese adage goes – never trade for another persons problems they may be worse than yours in the end.
One should always pleased other and No my family is not complicated
Well you are very lucky. Things are quite complicated here.
Try to promote forgiveness I hope it will get settle their minds
I am a mix of both. I know what I have to do and also know how to be happy
Most of us are a conglomeration of many things.
I used to be a people pleaser but you get hurt and stressed and not worth it. No more, I am kind and patient, but I look out for myself more these days.
I need to study up and what people pleaser really means. (Project for the day).
I realized that I wouldn’t be able to please everyone, hence I always just follow my heart. Every kid is really unique and has his own personality, we just have to guide them and let them follow the flow. I think both of your grandsons are good. 🙂
My heart can’t always make up it’s mind either lol ?
Sometimes I think it’s good to have the balance among the kids. 😀
You can’t always please everyone. Compromise and do one thing to please one and do another thing to please the other; and if they don’t like one of the choices, oh well!
Compromise is a great idea. Morning have plans ~ afternoon is planned and flip flop the next day. Thank you so much for the help.
No problem. By the way, that’s an adorable picture.