I made a friend many years ago when I was traveling. He was the gate agent for the United Gate at Indianapolis Weir Cook airport. We would, most Monday’s talk for a little bit. After 2 or so years of traveling, we exchanged emails. We were IU fans. He transferred to O’Hare airport as a supervisor around 5 or so years into my ten-year traveling window; we often ran into each other at the bigger airport. As a supervisor he no longer ran one gate, he ran 12. We would stop, grab a coffee and catch up. He always took his name badge off while on break. People, even when he was sitting down on a break would yell about their situation at him. Throughout the now nearly 20 years, we’ve been friends; I have to say that as my friend, I’ve stepped in a couple of times to stop people from yelling at him.
When all you do is complain, it is yelling. My friend had a great ability to smile and listen even when the only thing the other person did was be nasty, or complain. The reason I am bringing this up is the email he sent me yesterday. He is now married (he wasn’t when I was first traveling). They live in Chicago and are expecting their first child. They found out their first child was twins, so he was asking for advice. He also wanted to point out to me that I have been complaining a bit about the community on Virily and he reminded me “sometimes people remember more the nice things you say.” His rule was a focus on the nice things that some people say; it makes the complaints a lot easier to deal with when you start from a position of nice things.
Based on that, first, a thank you to my friend for reminding me to find positive things! The reality of the internet over the past few days has been a slowdown. The live-streamed events in New Zealand seem to have impacted overall speed. That said, there are many positive things to note. The first is that views are up on average on Virily. The vast majority of thoughtful and warm comments keep me going on a cool spring morning. Well,, spring is still a couple of days away. The 365 photo challenge lives on with a couple of folks nearing the century mark (that is an incredible achievement)! 365 days, 365 photos (except for the new calendar folks, apparently they are posting 356 days in a year ). Thank you to everyone that reads my pieces! You are the reason I write!
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Do you have a favorite comment that someone has left you?
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Do you think some of the posts on Virily are hilarious?
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Or will they go on forever?
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Is this the longest Virily poll, ever?
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I wonder how long the longest Virily poll is, do you?
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Will these questions ever end?
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Do you smile when you read articles?
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“The vast majority of thoughtful and warm comments keep me going on a cool spring morning” – absolutely ready to subscribe under these words!!! Have a lot of favorite comments on Virily and enjoy reading the most part of the posts.
It takes a while for poll answers to load but, that aside, I enjoy long polls. ?
It does take a while, i suspect they have an issue behind the main screen right now of Virily.
Define not working please I am not sure what you mean.
I add them before submitting and haven’t had an issue. They have cut the “size” of tags (it was unlimited now it appears to be limited to 10 tags or less).
Please look on my old posts they were not always limited to 10. Secondly, I don’t have time to step by step what I do. There are so many variables that is a really tough question to answer.
They never stopped working for me.
They were much larger at the beginning of Virily (as many as 40 possibly more) but that was more than 2 years ago.
How do you know most members can’t do that?
Do you have facts to back up that claim?
I’ve talked to you about variables before, throwing out a claim like what you just said can be interpreted in many ways.
Basically, you are saying out of 2200 give or take authors on Virily today, most ie more than 1200 have issues with hashtags?
Is it all users?
Do verified users have the problem?
do non-verified users have the problems?
Is it all templates or only some templates?
As I said so many variables for a Most have this problem declaration.
I was having fun in the longest survey. With kindness, we often do more than we expected
Thanks! I like your line with Kindness we do more than expected that is a really good way to look at the world!
Thank you very much for your kind comment … I am such
You are most welcome. And thank you for your kindness.
You may have the longest poll, but I am pretty sure I still have the longest title…
I don’t think there is a human being that can touch your title, title Alex. You are the king of long titles!
we will see if anyone accepts your challenge
I suspect all bow in fear to the long title master 🙂
fortune favors the bold, and I accept all challengers. also, I still don’t know how long the buffer is for titles…
There is a max, I thought it was around 128 characters but that may just be a lost memory. I will try one today and see.
Warmth in Virily is indeed fun and makes us feel peaceful and easy to share, exchange opinions, and build intimacy in friendship. I really agree with the rules of your friends.
He has a difficult job, and he handles it well. Rules and kindness are the two most important things a community can support.
Yup! I can understand that fully.