Almost a year ago, we helped out daughter move to Mission, Montana so she and her best friend could have their own place away from parents. At the time, I had some misgivings, but it wasn’t my choice to make. That was a big change that took time to get used to.
Early this year, our daughter was begging for help when she and her roommate had a falling out. We did what we could to get her moved back home, though we really didn’t have space for it. I’m not at all sorry for helping. That is what loving parents do. At least she was only 60-70 miles away.
Today was the start of a far bigger change and challenge. We just got back from Missoula International Airport, dropping our daughter off. About 45 minutes from now, her airplane will be taking off with an ultimate destination of Guatemala City, Guatemala. That is where she and her husband will be living for the next three years or so, providing that he can finally get citizenship in the US at the end of that time to come back to the US.
For the past 7 years, her husband has been living there after being deported due to a paperwork error. She naturally misses him greatly and not surprisingly, the feeling is mutual. So she took her most important belongings and moved there, or will when the plane arrives there in about 22 hours.
She’s taking her little poodle-mix dog, Cassie, who has been cleared to be her emotional support dog. Cat totally loves that little dog, so she went through all the hoops to be able to take Cassie with her.
Mind you, Cat is much a country girl as I am a country boy and she is moving from a county will a population of just over 11,500 and a town of around 1,000 to a city with a population of easily over 2.5 million. She has been there before, so she has an idea of what she’s getting herself into. However, there will be a cultural shock as well as the shock of putting a country girl into a densely packed metropolitan area. She’ll need to get used to the continuous heat and wildlife that is totally different than she is used to.
Importantly, too, is the fact that if she needs help, I will be totally unable to assist her, except through prayer. I know that this is a part of being an adult and leaving the nest, yet it gives me a feeling of helplessness, though it isn’t yet warranted and may never be.
I’m doing a lot of praying and I’m telling myself that I will see her again in just a few years, but, hey, this is a bit hard. I’m Daddy. We’ll stay in touch with email and through FaceBook, but it is a substantially different thing, moving 60-70 miles away and moving several thousand miles away, into a different country.
If you are so inclined, please pray for my daughter, as well as my wife and me. This will be a huge change that will take a while to get used to. I’d sure appreciate the prayers.
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I wish and hope your daughter will do well in her new place. I also hope her parents (especially you) realize that she is old enough to take care of herself. Stay happy for your daughter.
Thank you very much. Yes, she can take care of herself and her husband is very loving. There are merely cultural differences that will take time for her to get used to. At least she’s visited there enough times that she has an idea of what those differences are.
My prayers and thoughts are with you. It is wonderful to see such a supportive family..
I can’t imagine being any other way. Thank you so much for the prayers!
My thoughts are with your daughter and your family. I can only imagine how hard this decision was to make. All you can do is support her and hope for the best.
Yes, it wasn’t easy but it was something she wanted to do and she’s been talking about it for a very long time, so I hope and pray that everything works out for her.
I feel like things will be just fine.
Best wishes for your daughter …..
Thank you very much!
I admire your kind feeling about your daughter, your daughter is so lucky, such a kind father.In our society, father has a huge place, we love our father so much.I pray for your family. One day, surely you ‘ll find your kind love reward.soon very soon
That is what I pray for. The next few years are likely to be a big test for her, but I know that she can see it through. I have confidence in her.
What a wonderful and really hard situation to be in. To let go of your child is so hard. To know that she will be with her husband and that someday they will return, must bring light.
Sorry for the conflict, you will survive!
Yes, I will. I’ll also continue to worry but realize that my worry does absolutely nothing to help the situation.
I recognize you, you live in my head as well!
Rex, as a father you worry. It is in the job description!
That is true and it doesn’t lessen with time. I worry as much now as I did 39 years ago when she was born.
I hope your daughter has a good time there and they’ll both be able to come back to the US after the paperwork is sorted out.
I do, too, though I’m not sure that either of them understands how much money that is going to cost.
Your daughter looks like having a struggle in her situation. I wish for her to get a better deal in life.
Thank you. It is a helpless feeling for me, but she is the one who is facing new challenges.
I will definitely pray and agree with you for her and her husband’s safety in Guatemala City and that the process moves swiftly so that they return to you in Montana.
Thank you very much. It is appreciated.
Rex, That is indeed sad news. I don’t do prayers, but your family are certainly in my thoughts, if that counts.
It definitely counts, John. Thank you!
You’re welcome, Rex – I’ve sort of known you for a long time, and I know that you are a caring, family-oriented person who deserves every happiness in life.
You are very kind, John!