LaJenna
This is #182 of the 365 day photo challenge. Anyone can join, just post a photo for 365 days.
I chose this picture due to the fact I am feeling hurt due to someone’s behavior. She is talking crazy, and putting me in the middle of all of it. If I tell her I have been walking 5 miles she calls that crazy, instead of supporting me. She is also talking the same way to other people she knows as well. She has been saying things that are not so to others.
I am hurting more than my finger was that day this photo was taken. Physical pain usually heals up, but how I feel may take longer if she doesn’t wise up. How should I handle this situation? I actually have been avoiding her lately. Her stress level will improve if she gets into counseling.
It seems like the only things I can comment on today have to be a year old. Interesting.
Thank you ghostwrited for alway support us as best you can.
Because dear friend a dear member of the family is older and will be hurt badly if she finds out. Just trying to help before it is too late.
It’s hard to ignore people in the family. But he can not live in stressful situations. So the damage to your health dear friend.
I am learning dear friend to distance myself from unhealthy minded people.
I’m sorry what you’ve to go through … I’m not good at dealing with such things too …
I think it’ll be good to keep a distance from her, minimize contact. In worst case whereby you cannot avoid contact, you’ll have to learn to be selective in listening … lol, just hear the good stuffs and ignore the rest …
Anyway, I hope things get better for you, take cares 🙂
Thank you alibb for such wise advice. It helped me!
I’m so glad I helped 🙂
I am so sorry LaJenna. Ignore is always an option, but it brings no relief to the pain. If it helps I am impressed that you walk 5 miles, that you take care of your daughters, husband and that you are a wonderful person.
Thank you Doc Anderson for your thoughtfulness. It means a lot!
Better to avoid crazy people and don’t place your self on that crazy one. Be passionate and passion is always beautiful.
Thank you Witty Feeds, but this person is a family member. Ignoring only goes so far, but I keep trying.
Oh that’s really hard situation , I think better is to keep quite and don’t respond him/her
Yes I am doing that, but I want to help the other members from being hurt. It is like a time bomb ready to go off, and I am trying to run and stop it.
I may not be the right person to give advice but as an online friend, I would try to share some thoughts. It would be possible to avoid people if we don’t have a direct connection with them, but if our life or work happens in the same place, it would be difficult to say, avoid them. Perhaps we can talk it over, make things clear and set a boundary.
Thank you Sharon, but this situation is impossible to ignore, she is family, but I do try to limit contact.
It isn’t easy, but learn to ignore it. It isn’t worth it to let it bother you. There are many people who are like that and they are only hurting themselves. That sort of behavior is as transparent to others as it is to you and chances are excellent that other people discount what she says about anything or anyone as being less than honest or accurate.
The Bible is quite clear about gossips, which is what this sort of person is. But in the end, each of us can control only one person; ourselves. That is enough of a full-time job. The best you can do is hope that she sees the light sooner rather than later. I routinely pray for people like that because I’m quite aware that the longer they do it, the harder they will fall and I’d prefer that they don’t hurt themselves that much. Still, it is out of your hands.
Thank you Rex, but when it is about family the limit contact only goes so far. I do hope she sees the light of day sooner than later. God is my only hope!
Prayer can go a very long way and it is a powerful too. God is also quite aware when you are asking for His intervention when it is for the benefit of the other person as much or more than it is for yourself. We choose our friends, but we don’t choose our family. He knows this because he designed it that way.
Be thankful that at least you haven’t gone through what Joseph had to endure in regards to his brothers.
Remember all the things I told you my friend. We can only try helping those who want help. We cannot make them do anything. They have to make the choice. In the meantime you have to put distance between you two, somehow. Hugs.
Thank you Carol, I am putting distance between us when I can, but when it is family I can’t stop it completely
Yes you can. I have had to cut ties with family. It is hard but it is tough love.
But if I do it completely my mom will go down hill. I just try to not let things get to the point of no return. My mom is mostly healthy for her age, but I have seen her almost give up due to stresses, and I must try to keep things as much as possible. Thank you Carol!