Albert Herdianto Widjojo
I am sure that most of my friends here are sincere, but after all, every time I read the name of someone who visits or comments on my posts, there is always a feeling of debt to them.
It is a kind of debt that will continue to haunt me, even though sometimes, in the midst of limited time, often I do not have the opportunity to repay their attention, support, and kindness which is full of sincerity, at least I need time to do it.
Well, pay attention to what is happening in my mind, like there is a shadow inherent in me that often makes me think, am I someone who is sincere or even transactional because I always feel in debt as I mentioned above. Aware of it, in this post, I feel the need to apologize if I have not had time to visit your post or reply to your comment in recent days or weeks.
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Question of
Do you feel indebted if you know your friends’ visits and comments on your posts?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Are you disappointed if people don’t return your visit or comment?
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Yes
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No
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Users voted 13 times.
Q: Do you feel indebted if you know your friends’ visits and comments on your posts?
Yes (8 votes) – 62%
No (5 votes) – 38%
Q: Are you disappointed if people don’t return your visit or comment?
Yes (5 votes) – 38%
No (8 votes) – 62%
Yes and no. Yes to question number 1 because the ethics in the social media platforms conditioned our mind that it should be treated as that – transactional. No to question number 2 because hey, it does not matter. One thing though, if a regular follower suddenly stops, I always try to find out why just to make sure everything is well with them. Not to ask them to come back.
Hmmm… Opinions from social media angels like you can be fully agreed upon. Transactional is the reality around us, maybe even throughout our selfhood.?
I understand that everyone sometimes has a shortage of time. We all have some other obligations. I also sometimes have some day in delays, but later I try to make up for it. But I’m never doing something under compulsion. I’m sure you will do the same ?
I am happy to have friends who have understanding like you. Unfortunately, I’m the one who often feels indebted … Maybe it’s my own dark side …
It’s okay, dear friend. Once again I will say that you do not really need to feel responsible for me ?
I agree with you. I have similar examples too. For a while, I was burdened with this, but I realized that this was not a solution. So I decided to review and comment on only those who read and comment on my post. Unfortunately it is.
Sometimes a double-edged sword is used to interpret some people we do not know. We never know how they will react or accept our explanation.
Maybe our minds are in connection to each other this time… lol
To be honest, I am often troubled by this problem, especially when I am on a tight schedule like now.
I am not anxious if people do not pay back to my visit or reply my comment but I am restless if I can not/have not had the opportunity to visit or reply to comments from friends.
In the past, when I only posted one to three times a week, and read and commented more on friends posts, most notifications were only about points or replies that didn’t always require responses like “Welcome”. Now, after being verified user and posted once a day in general, I can see hundreds of notifications that must be responded to every day, and when I have limited time, it becomes a problem.
I always visit and read all the posts of those I follow. I do not do that because I feel in debt. I do that because I want to! Most of the time, because I do not leave a sign (comment) no one knows that I have read its post. No one should feel in debt to me. If someone finds my pictures interesting and visits me, I’m glad. I would not like someone to visit me just because he/she feels in debt.
I love the shadows in your photo!
In general, I visit friends posts here because I want to, but there are also because I feel in debt. Maybe that’s my negative side.
Thanks for your compliment to the images.
I can not force anyone to view my posts and comment,dear Albert … I open and comment only to those who are returning to me … if someone opens me or I do not burden … I’m not here to be burdened but to have fun and chat a little bit with you
I understand your perspective, especially for having fun here, unfortunately, I may have a certain sensitivity that can make me feel uncomfortable if I don’t visit friends posts here or reply to their comments, like you, dear friend.
And I also feel uncomfortable about this, if I ever forget or overlook … but also when I’m late … for you, I do not care at all … I know that you will look and comment … if not today and tomorrow or in 1 week
You know me well in this matter, dear friend.
She has been communicating for some time and getting to know her,dear friend
Well… sometime we need to adjust our expectations, both on others and ourselves …
Like many others have mentioned, it’s about time … and sometimes the mood …
I don’t think anyone should feel guilty or bad because he/she can’t “repay” their visits …
We all try to repay as much as we can … or at least reply to those who take the time to comment and share their views …
Maybe I’m too sensitive, but that’s how I feel, feeling indebted or even feeling guilty when I haven’t been able to visit or reply to your comments or other friends, especially when I’m in the middle of time constraints. I am fortunate that at least I feel I have closeness and mutual understanding with you and many friends here.
We all have other things in life …so we all understand … 🙂
Yes, I feel the community here is forgiving and accommodating.
Most things aren’t a transaction, I feel …
Albert, I love your posts. I read them by choice. YOU DO NOT EVER owe me a return visit. I am honored with each comment you leave. But I do not feel that for every time I read something of yours, you have to return that.
Thanks for sharing this!
I have repeatedly read your statement about that and fully believe you Doc. But still, once again it is encouraging to me, even though the feeling of debt is difficult for me to eliminate.
It is due to lack of time that I cannot reply as soon as possible to all of my readers.
We have the same limitations, we are fortunate to have built mutual understanding.
That is a good deal we can live with.
I want to repay my friends visits to my posts but cant always find the time to do it. However, although I love people to visit my posts, I understand how precious time is.
I agree with you, Pamela. The dynamics of life always offer lessons for us to be wise, also here.
It is all about time here. I understand when my friends do not visit or comment, and I know I will see them when they have time. I know you are sincere about visiting and you will as time allows. No worries.
That’s the important reason why we need to build closeness and mutual understanding so that we understand each other how we interact sincerely here.
That is absolutely correct, and we have done just that. Take care.
I do not always have free time to answer the comments in my posts. I’m worried when I can return the visit to everyone who has visited my posts.
For me, maybe for us, after all this time we have become users of Virily and as friends, we have known each other’s character, especially in interacting, as well as our introduction to other friends about it. The introduction of one another, the closeness of friendship, our mutual understanding has strengthened the sincerity between us in interacting, hopefully, this also applies with other friends who are not close enough to us.
I try hard to make time to read posts from as many friends as possible here, especially those I have known, and also those who have visited my posts, although sometimes it is also difficult due to my limitations.
Amazing post friend Albert Herdianto Widjojo
Thanks a lot for your compliment, my friend. I just wonder what you mean by amazing here.