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Tomorrow is the day of the memory of the dead. For me, this is one sad, depressing day. Today we have nice weather so I edited my grave where they buried my parents and husband. I was not just exaggerating like some. I visit the grave all year round and I light candles, it does not matter whether it is a holiday or not. Every year, I notice that many people do not visit graves during the year. They do not light a single candle. Before the day of the memory of the dead, all day long they organize graves, plant flowers, clean graves, light a candle, etc. For me this is hypocrisy itself and that the rest of the people will see. I do not know what kind of people this is.
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Do you also have a memorial day in your country?
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Are you visiting the graves?
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We do have certain day based on lunar calendar..which could be very headache..
in every country it’s a little different….
I visit my parents grave, although my Dads ashes were scattered, his picture is next to Mums on her grave and I pay respects for both when I visit her grave. We don’t light candles here for the graves, but I always wash my hands after visiting and most graves have plastic flowers or pretty objects by them. There are pretty plastic flowers by her grave.
It seems that we all have our own traditions
One of my best friends passed in March of this year and since he was a veteran of WWII, he was honored with a 21-gun salute and put to rest in a beautiful nearby national cemetary. It may seem like a contradiction to say the cemetary is beautiful, but it is true. I pick roses from the bushes he planted and take them as often as I can. My late husband was a veteran of the same war, but he did not want that kind of service. They were both heroes to my way of thinking.
It must be really beautiful cemetery … in our country, we have only “normal” cemeteries
Also sorry for your losses & share your grief. The day of memory and grief in Russia is June 22 – the date of the beginning of The Great Patriotic War. But I usually visit the grave of my grandmother in other days.
I visit the grave when I feel the desire
I am sorry for your loss! I believe that it’s important to keep our loved ones in our hearts and minds even if we are not phisically together.
I totally agree … it is important the heart, not a flower and a candle
I’m going to the cemetery whenever I can. My father died in 2000. Also, my husband’s father, 10 months ago. Several times a year on the Orthodox Church there is a day for the dead. The next Saturday is one such day, and we will all go to the cemetery to burn the candles to our dead.
I’m sorry about your loss … I go to the grave when I feel the desire
We don’t have a memorial day in my country but usually people visiting the graves before the Before religious holidays.
I myself always visit my father’s grave before Christmas and Easter with my mother and siblings and all of our family. We do it two to three times a year, at least to clean the tomb, and put flowers there.
That’s fine … in every country it’s a little different … I visit the grave when I want it
My first Vidocka will be condolences.
You quote:Before the day of the memory of the dead, all day long they organize graves, plant flowers, clean graves, light a candle, etc. For me this is hypocrisy itself and that the rest of the people will see. I do not know what kind of people this is.
Vidocka pa ljudi se razlikuju u svakoj prilici.Takvi smo Ima nas raznih.
P.S.Because of the poor translation of English letters I write in Serbian, I believe you understand it.
I understand Robin ? … I agree, people are different and so is right
I visit my families grave when I can. They are in another state.
That’s fine … I visit the grave when I feel the desire
Yes very regularly visits the grave and I light candles
There are few such people
I don’t visit graves often and I never light a candle. I guess I don’t know the significance of lighting a candle. Maybe someone here could teach me about that.
In every culture, the importance of lighting the candles is a little different. This ritual was once invented by their own. In our country, it means the ignition of the candles of mourning. It would be easier to transfer the loss of a loved one.
Christ’s faith has made some people to be “lighthouses” of his teaching. The wax is pure, as was the pure and Christ’s soul. The burning of candles is the sacrifice of our dead, but also for the health and happiness of our living. The candle is a faith to Christ, which burns in our hearts.