Maggie Bailey
I took this photo of myself on Saturday, when I visited the coast for the day. I went to St Leonard’s-on-Sea on the South Coast of England to meet someone with regards to a possible house-share down there. I have been thinking of relocating for some time, and would enjoy living by the sea. I think it would be beneficial for my health, in more ways than one.
I have set up an account on a housing website, and posted an ad saying that I am looking for either a ready-made house share, or for someone to buddy up with me, and we find a place to rent together. I put in the ad that the area I am interested in moving to is the South Coast. A lady contacted me and suggested we meet up, so I went down to St Leonard’s last Saturday and met her for lunch. However, I don’t think I have found the right person yet – although she seemed nice enough, I got the feeling we would not be that compatible to live together (and I think the same thing may well have occurred to her too).
It was a disappointing day, and all the more so as I had a bit of an accident in my car on the way back! It was a long drive, I was tired, it was getting dark, and I was driving down a narrow, windy country road and hit the bank on the right hand side of the road. The wheel was bust and I had to call the AA Breakdown Recovery Service to tow me home. The car is in the garage now being repaired, and it is going to cost me about £200 or more, money I can ill afford, as I am very hard up anyway.
So I came home feeling that the day had been a bit of a disaster really! But one thing I have got out of it, is that it has made me reconsider my moving plans. I know it is not going to be at all easy to find the right place or person to share with, so I am thinking it might be best for me to put my plans on hold for a while at least, and see what happens.
Assessing the situation and holding off the plan isn’t bad. Sometimes, we have to wait till the time is right or we find out we shouldn’t have moved in.
Agreed introvert. Thank you for commenting. Things have definitely changed since I wrote this post: I now *have* to move, as my landlady is selling this flat! I have to be out by the end of September. I decided to move upcountry, further North, so went to look at some places last week in the area I would like to be. I made an offer on one, but then it fell through as someone else got it. 🙁 Not sure what to do now, whether to go up to that area again to view places. It’s a long way, and I need to stay overnight really. I spent about 3 days there last week looking round. I am wondering if maybe I should look for somewhere nearer. Waiting for some inspiration to strike, but getting stressed because now I have a deadline.
I’m sorry to hear that. Looking for an inspiring-quiet place is an uphill task. It’s only remaining one month. I hope you will get one. Don’t you want the one near the sea?
I don’t know. Initially I thought about living near the sea, but then I got the idea about going further North, for various reasons. It’s hard to know where to go or what to do really. I think I would be happy living in the Peak District, the area I have just visited. I have got until the end of September anyway fortunately, so that should be enough time to find something, but it’s stressing me out having it hanging over me. At least once I have found somewhere, once I have somewhere lined up to move into, then the pressure is off. Then I can just focus on the move and starting my new life.
Great photo, Maggie. I’am glad that you are alive and well after the accident.
Thank you Thomas. Yes, I have been driving very carefully since then!
Nice photo, I would say trust your instincts and when things are meant to be, some one will turn up who is the right person. You will know when that happens.
Thank you Pamela. Yes, I agree. I realised within the first few minutes of meeting this person that we did not really have the right kind of rapport to live together, and I am sure she felt the same thing, as neither of us have contacted the other since our meeting. I think we both realised we are not likely to be compatible. So I will just carry on looking, and, as you say, when I meet the right person, I think things will fall into place.
Great photos and you look fresh Maggie.
Sometimes or often many things seem to go beyond what we want, right? But I am sure you are very wise to understand and respond to such things.
Thank you Albert. Yes, we often can’t get what we want in life, and just have to make the best of the situation we are in. That is what I am doing at present. I won’t be here forever after all – everything changes eventually. I appreciate your supportive comments.
Pleasure is mine, dear friend. I think it’s always fun to support someone
is there any way you could take the rail out next time?
??? Sorry Alex Ledante, I don’t know what you mean. “Take the rail out”?? Can you explain please.
take a train or a subway? try to not drive your car too far unless you have to…
Oh I see! Yes, good suggestion. Thanks for clarifying that. I thought you meant a literal rail – I thought maybe there was one in the photograph which was ruining the composition, but I couldn’t see one! LOL. Yes, I know I need to be more careful on these long drives.
Yeah, if you’re talking about car problems and I’m critiquing your snaps then you have my permission to slap me
Do not lose hope. Once, you will surely meet the right person.
Thank you vidocka. Yes, I try to keep the faith.
You look great! Though I don’t really understand why you need to stay somewhere else, I wish you find both things you wish for.
Thank you Sharon Lopez. I want to move for various reasons. one being my health. I feel that my quality of life is quite low here. But I make the best of things, and keep doing what I can. I know that at some point I will be living in the right place for me.
It takes time to find the right place or person, but I am sure it will happen when the time is right. 🙂
Thank you ellie925. That gives me hope. It is getting me down where I am living right now, for various reasons, but I know I could do a lot worse for housing, so I am not going to jump out of the frying pan into the fire. Everything changes eventually, so I won’t be living in this apartment forever after all! I’ll move out at some point. At present, I think I need to wait for a while and see what comes up.
That’s true, sometimes the only thing we can do is being patient.
Yes, I am finding it hard, but I get a feeling I need to be patient for some time longer, at least a few months. Then hopefully things will become a bit clearer.
Sounds like you weren’t lucky, but it’s a great plan, please don’t give up! ?
Thank you sabtraversa. No, I am not giving up on it as such – just putting it on hold for now. I am not in a position to move until I a) have enough money, and b) find the right person to share with, preferably both. I just thought I might not do anything about it for a few months, and then review it. Something may happen in that time – I may meet someone who offers me a room in a house. At present, I feel I am kind of overworking it, pushing too hard, which is why it is not happening. I have often found that when you relax about things a bit more and let go, that is when you get the breakthrough.
Thank you tasartcraft. Yes, it sure is hard, finding the right person.
Thank you DocAndersen. Yes, at least I had a day out anyway, going somewhere different and I hadn’t been to the beach in nearly a year. It has helped me make a decision anyway: I think I need to wait for a while before I move, wait till the time is right, not clutch at straws.
I thought I had tasartcraft! Thanks for pointing that out.
Any day spent on the beach is always a bonus! Sorry, the roomshare didn’t work out.
Thank you DocAndersen. Yes, at least I had a day out anyway, going somewhere different and I hadn’t been to the beach in nearly a year. It has helped me make a decision anyway: I think I need to wait for a while before I move, wait till the time is right, not clutch at straws.
I think that is a very important and good decision. Sometimes patience is critical.