This Is Not How You Love Someone

I just came across a horrifying story on The Daily Mail about one Pukkapong Chitarom shooting his ex-girlfriend Natchareeya Thaprajit in the chest and then turning the gun on himself.

Sadly, he survived.

This is not how you love someone. This is unhealthy fixation on another Human life, as if he owned her and I see the beginnings of this type of behavior all around me.

I just feel I should speak up.

We men, for a variety of reasons, tend to fixate and obsess over those we love. And while I, too, understand what it means to pine for someone, this is not the way to do it.

Do not fixate on any one individual. This is just the beginning of a stalking case.

Rather, obsess and fixate on your IDEAL of a partner. And, know this, your ideal will never be met, completely.

But you can come very close.

As long as you also understand that perfection never happens, not only will you find yourself comfortable around the flaws of others, you will also grow comfortable with your own.

But, even if you don’t, do bot fixate on any one person. Fixate on the ideal and rejection loses all its sting.


What do you think?

Written by DonaldPennington


  1. Guys (and Grrls) like that see others as possessions, not as people. We are not meant to fill the hollow space in someone’s broken heart, but to thrive as individuals with friends who walk or run beside us toward common goals. There!

  2. I know what you mean I’ve seen people get that way & it’s scary too
    I don’t get why people get so crazy over such things as that when it’s
    just better to let them go & be done with it all is the way it SHOULD be.