DonaldPennington
I just came across a horrifying story on The Daily Mail about one Pukkapong Chitarom shooting his ex-girlfriend Natchareeya Thaprajit in the chest and then turning the gun on himself.
Sadly, he survived.
This is not how you love someone. This is unhealthy fixation on another Human life, as if he owned her and I see the beginnings of this type of behavior all around me.
I just feel I should speak up.
We men, for a variety of reasons, tend to fixate and obsess over those we love. And while I, too, understand what it means to pine for someone, this is not the way to do it.
Do not fixate on any one individual. This is just the beginning of a stalking case.
Rather, obsess and fixate on your IDEAL of a partner. And, know this, your ideal will never be met, completely.
But you can come very close.
As long as you also understand that perfection never happens, not only will you find yourself comfortable around the flaws of others, you will also grow comfortable with your own.
But, even if you don’t, do bot fixate on any one person. Fixate on the ideal and rejection loses all its sting.
People get the wrong ideas in their heads and sometimes there is not changing them. But we have to keep trying.
I’ll keep trying where I can. I used to try yelling my knowledge to be heard. Thia scared people away. I have since learned to use a whisper.
Guys (and Grrls) like that see others as possessions, not as people. We are not meant to fill the hollow space in someone’s broken heart, but to thrive as individuals with friends who walk or run beside us toward common goals. There!
Even if we don’t do just everything so textbook perfect like something out of a Harlequin romance novel, damn, love still shouldn’t hurt.
Those novels suck, but U R right, if it hurts it isn’t love, it is something else.
These issues of controlling others stem from someone having weak borders of their own and istaking the personal borders of others as their own territories, too.
The only person I control is me.
I know what you mean I’ve seen people get that way & it’s scary too
I don’t get why people get so crazy over such things as that when it’s
just better to let them go & be done with it all is the way it SHOULD be.
Yep. Let them go. More people could use a little more of Tom Petty’s music.
ha ha ha I couldn’t agree with you MORE.
Good old Tom Petty tried to guide us. He tried his best.
Yes he did, he was a good man.
a lot of people have but no one listened.