(to quote an old TV show, the names are changed to protect the innocent! I’ll let you decide which side is innocent!)
There are elves that sneak into our house, sometimes right after dinner, sometimes much later. They are not the quiet elves that snuck in and made shoes for the cobbler. They are the loud elves who argue overturns and who has to wash the by hand dishes. Once upon a time, there were no rules about hand washing. That meant pans were left to soak for days. Sometimes, pans would sit on the counter dirty “soaking” until the older elves got angry.
That created a new rule, the if it is dirty on Tuesday it has to be washed on Tuesday.
Initially, the creation of the rule by the older elves caused a great panic amongst the younger elves. This resulted in a couple of explosions and some loud pan rattling. The younger elves expressed the infamous “it isn’t fair.” I am happy to report that the older elves were able to succinctly explain to the younger elves that when “one is captive of the fox, one does not dictate to the fox.”