alibb
I just want to share this story with you guys.
I was over a a friend’s house. We were watching movies on her TV box when he husband came back, sulking and then slumping onto the single-seater sofa beside.
“Hi.” I decided I need to greet the owner still. He ignored me. I looked over at my friend and she was kinda embarrassed by his reaction.
I just shrugged and got back to watching the movie. About a few minutes later, he said angrily, “doesn’t they show that drama we watched yesterday?”
“I thought you say it’s not interesting?” my friend asked him.
“I didn’t!” he snapped.
I was clearly uneasy about the tense atmosphere and then I told my friend to let him watch his drama and asked if I should leave… she shot me a “SOS” look. So I stayed and had the channel switched, but then he goes again.
“What the f*ck, I missed the beginning! Is there a way to get them to replay it?” (note: he already missed it by the time he came back.)
Now my friend’s face changed, but she held back. “Yeah, you can pay to watch it again!” (their box set have that feature, pay to re-watch)
“I don’t want to pay!” he snapped, “I just want to watch the beginning!”
My friend rolled her eyes and then turned to me, “you said you want the recipe right?” (I actually didn’t but I know she wants to get away)
We went to “her room” (they have individual “cooling” room) … she was so angry. And then I asked her again after she calm down if I need to leave … but she said if I leave, he’ll only get worse….
So I stayed for a while longer till her husband was ready to sleep. In the end, she texted me that her husband acted this way because the cleaners had washed the carpark and soiled his car. He spent an hour cleaning it and so he got angry.
And I was like “WHAT!?” What has that got to do with anything? Why do we need to get vented on? I can understand that he is angry but doesn’t mean he needs to make everyone else unhappy.
And according to my friend this isn’t the first time he did this.
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Question of
Do you think I should have left?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Have you been caught in such a situation?
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Yes
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No
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Quite complex and delicate situations are this. And unfortunately they have them.
To be honest, I am often in the midst of such conflicts, between partners, between leaders, between groups, between relatives, you name it… Leaving them or not very much dependent on many considerations.
In your case, you have been wise and kind even though you will feel discomfort.
Oh wow, that doesn’t sounds like a good situation to be often in… But I guess its your job and you probably knows how to deal with the, ///
It was indeed my job for twenty-five years ago.
Well… then it’s good, you won’t be in that kinda situation now :p
I seemed to have drama knocking on my door on a daily basis. I try to keep it from me but it keeps coming back
It sounds like your friend was afraid of that guy. It was brave of you to stay to protect her, but kind of wrong of her to involve you, I think. She may have no recourse, but she is codependent with him and enabling his negative behavior.
Hmm… I don’t think she is that afraid of him but she just don’t want to get into another argument with him. She has quite bad temper too. I’d imagine them shouting at each other already if I’m not there…
I don’t want to deal with any sort of drama or unpleasant situations
Same here… but got caught in one… :/
I’d be careful about visiting my friend in future lol
yeah, imagine grownups who pout when they don’t get their way. No wonder the world is so messed up
Sometimes it’s better that we do not know everything
hmm. nice back to childhood 🙂 🙂
Drama. I do whatever I can to avoid these situations.
Got caught in one… :/
Didn’t know why he acted like this…
And you will probably never know. But remember, it is ok NOT to know sometimes. I have learned that lesson many times over.
Yeah… information is not good if you can’t digest them 🙂
Specific situation, I think it’s the best way to go.
I’d do that next time (but hopefully I don’t need to go through it again) :/