In the modern world, probably only the lazy one did not have time to delve into his past. At every corner, they say that all the problems are from childhood. Parents who were too strict or, conversely, not enough strict are blamed for the problems of the present. Also, they blame the relationship with the abuser, who broke the psyche and made it impossible to have a normal relationship.
But remember yourself at 6 at 16, at 26. Are you the same person now? No, you have acquired a bunch of new knowledge, experience, skills. Your social circle has expanded or changed at all, your interests, preferences in food, clothes have changed. Why then delve into your past and try to correct the consequences of actions that can no longer be undone? You have yourself as you are now, so make new useful actions that will improve your tomorrow.
It’s impossible to change people by force. You cannot make another person the way you need, simply because you so wanted. You can fix this by working on yourself and on relationships. On yourself – means to have your own passions that inspire and delight. The more interesting and lively you are, the more your closest ones will want to be near you. The more willingly other people will search for your society, the more valuable you will be in the eyes of your partner.
Work on relationships is simple and complex at the same time. But everything is logical: you need to give warmth in response to a good attitude and cold in response to disrespect, indifference, and negativity.
© Fortune, 2020
It’s impossible to change people by force, agree?