To give you a clear understanding I will relay the story of Lil* (not her real name.)
At the age of 38 Lil attended a therapist. She did so because she felt she had issues forming lasting relationships. Her marriage had ended, and she broke up with a man she was living with.
The therapist decided Harriet had been sexually abused as a child. Who was the culprit? The father.
Lil disputed, she had a great relationship with her parents.This couldn’t be true, but, after psychotropic drugs and hypnosis, she was brought to ‘recall’ that when she was twelve her father sexually abused her.
An average person might consider is how did it take take Lil so many years to discern she had been abused? How was it possible for her to have an excellent relationship with her father until the therapy ‘revealed’ this unknown abuse?