The therapist convinced Lil that the reason she could not form long lasting relationships with men was due to the sexual abuse she suffered a a child, abuse unknown until therapy.
Lil, who previous to entering this office had a very warm relationship with her parents, was told her father had sexually abused her.
The therapist warned her not to tell her parents. Her parents would only deny it. She knew what she knew.
As Lil left the office she contacted her parents, attacked them. When they questioned her, Lil hung up. She refused to speak with them every again. All relatives and friends who ‘took their side’ were cut off.
Lil now became the 38 year old woman who was abused as a child. That was her new identity.
For five years Lil attended therapy to deal with the sexual abuse she never knew she had suffered at the hands of her father.
For five years, Lil, who once had a life, dates, friends, and family, became the 38, then 39, then on and on until she was 43…year old who was abused as a child.
When he therapist went on vacation, Lil, who depended on her therapy, saw another.
This therapist took Lil’s history and listened to her and said; “I really don’t find any proof of abuse, it seems to me you set very high standards and no man has been able to reach them.”
Hearing this, all ‘memories’ of abuse disappeared.
Lil tried to contact her parents. Her father had died, her mother blamed her, and would not speak further. No one from her past would speak to her.
The full impact of what had happened hit Lil like a truck.
She hired a lawyer.