Benny
There are times in life we feel the need not to forgive someone. We still hold onto grudge not wanting to sweep away the hatred and resentment to a person who has hurt us. Sometimes, life is unfair.
But also, we have been culprits at several times whereby we have wronged someone. Some of us are considerate enough to ask for forgiveness while others don’t want to. They don’t want to acknowledge they’ve hurt someone.
What do you do when someone hurts you? Do you allow negative emotions to take control of your life dictating what you should and should not, how to behave and why you should not behave in a certain way? Does it appear when you forgive you giving that person leeway to continue hurting you?
Forgiveness is for the benefit of you. Sometimes we feel we are benefiting someone. To some level, yes.
She you allow anger, hatred and bitterness become part of your life; you’re only harming yourself. There are scientific studies to prove the importance of forgiving.
You have to learn to forgive because in life we will always be hurt and will hurt others knowingly or unknowingly.
It does take time to forgive but don’t take too long to forgive. One might say, “You don’t know how it feels?” Sure, I don’t know. But, I read a story of a wan who forgave a man who raped her while she was young plus other countless others.
Forgiveness can sometimes be really difficult. It depends how deeply we are affected. I have experienced quite a few such cases. I have learned that forgiveness is good for me and my well-being.
How does the saying go, “forgive 70 times seventy per day?” Another modern concept is the one that goes,”I have done my share.” What is YOUR SHARE?
Yes, Jesus’ utterance that we should forgive as much as possible. Because it is for our own benefit.
What my take-away is, is that when people forgive, they have a new spin on it,like “I’ll forgive but not forget.”Be careful of this, you might get spun out of heaven. The same goes about people have this modern notion that there is a certain extent or part they claim as their PART, or their SHARE when helping someone, I would like to know, who determines the extent or dimensions of that PART or SHARE? I hope Jesus doesn’t have a cut-off part or share. Good post, thank you.
We have such a traditional holiday in my home country. It lasts one week. So we have the opportunity to ask forgiveness from others and to give others our forgiveness. We celebrate every year before the start of Lent for Easter. Fasting lasts for 40 days. Forgiveness matters, most of all, to the forgiving person, as he releases himself from his negative emotions and again gains the opportunity to make an objective assessment of the facts relating to the other person, the offense or the conduct in question.
You are correct, Lach59. Forgiveness aids in releasing negative emotions by setting us free from their hold and to make an unbiased assessment about the other person.
I agree Elenka, it’s not complicated. God is reminding them of their wrong doing we need to allow Him to do it and move on.
i have a very simple rule in life. I forgive everyone once. That first apology in my eyes frees them from both what happened and frees me from the hurt.
The second time I will accept but not forget.
the reason for that is I have been burned many times by those who are justified in their behavior. the justification only applies to their side of the situation and I do not trust them going forward.
I side you with what you have said. The first time you forget but not from the second because some people never feel they wrong somebody even though it has been made clear to them.
that is such a hard thing when it happens the second time.
Yes. Especially when one knows it but seems to enjoy doing what is hurting you.
they would argue that lashing out is simply them telling you they are hurt as well. It is a tough situation all the way around.
I forgot to mention I love your post. Great post!!
Thank you, Dawn. I appreciate it.
Most often people forget that by forgiving someone they give themselves a release from anger, hatred, emotional pain and physical damage.
I believe I cannot be a human if I don’t forgive. I need to forgive purely because I hurt others too , I need the healing as much as they do.
I agree with you, Dawn. It is human to forgive because we hurt others in some varying degrees.
Only God can forgive but we can forget. It is not that one can be comfortable with everyone one meets. But hating anyone is wrong.
Hating is wrong. The Bible says God won’t forgive us if we don’t forgive others.
Interesting. In our eyes someone may seem to have wronged us but in the eyes of God that may not be the case. I therefore leave it to God to forgive those who I feel have hurt me. I have no right to do it but forget I certainly can.
I agree with what Carol said. Forgiving others is important for our own mental health, but sometimes it’s easier said than done.
It is not easy to do it because of the degree of hurt. But we have to try.
Forgiveness is for us, not the other person. You can forgive them in your heart, without actually telling them the words. Until we forgive the hurt, we cannot move past.
That is true. You can forgive a person without telling that person and until we forgive, we will remain imprisoned by the past.