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Forgiveness: What is Your Take?

There are times in life we feel the need not to forgive someone. We still hold onto grudge not wanting to sweep away the hatred and resentment to a person who has hurt us. Sometimes, life is unfair.

But also, we have been culprits at several times whereby we have wronged someone. Some of us are considerate enough to ask for forgiveness while others don’t want to. They don’t want to acknowledge they’ve hurt someone.

What do you do when someone hurts you? Do you allow negative emotions to take control of your life dictating what you should and should not, how to behave and why you should not behave in a certain way? Does it appear when you forgive you giving that person leeway to continue hurting you? 

Forgiveness is for the benefit of you. Sometimes we feel we are benefiting someone. To some level, yes. 

She you allow anger, hatred and bitterness become part of your life; you’re only harming yourself. There are scientific studies to prove the importance of forgiving.

You have to learn to forgive because in life we will always be hurt and will hurt others knowingly or unknowingly.

It does take time to forgive but don’t take too long to forgive. One might say, “You don’t know how it feels?” Sure, I don’t know. But, I read a story of a wan who forgave a man who raped her while she was young plus other countless others.


What do you think?

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  1. Forgiveness can sometimes be really difficult. It depends how deeply we are affected. I have experienced quite a few such cases. I have learned that forgiveness is good for me and my well-being.

    • What my take-away is, is that when people forgive, they have a new spin on it,like “I’ll forgive but not forget.”Be careful of this, you might get spun out of heaven. The same goes about people have this modern notion that there is a certain extent or part they claim as their PART, or their SHARE when helping someone, I would like to know, who determines the extent or dimensions of that PART or SHARE? I hope Jesus doesn’t have a cut-off part or share. Good post, thank you.

  2. We have such a traditional holiday in my home country. It lasts one week. So we have the opportunity to ask forgiveness from others and to give others our forgiveness. We celebrate every year before the start of Lent for Easter. Fasting lasts for 40 days. Forgiveness matters, most of all, to the forgiving person, as he releases himself from his negative emotions and again gains the opportunity to make an objective assessment of the facts relating to the other person, the offense or the conduct in question.

  3. i have a very simple rule in life. I forgive everyone once. That first apology in my eyes frees them from both what happened and frees me from the hurt.

    The second time I will accept but not forget.

    the reason for that is I have been burned many times by those who are justified in their behavior. the justification only applies to their side of the situation and I do not trust them going forward.

  4. Most often people forget that by forgiving someone they give themselves a release from anger, hatred, emotional pain and physical damage.
    I believe I cannot be a human if I don’t forgive. I need to forgive purely because I hurt others too , I need the healing as much as they do.


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