McM2018
Tis the year of back to school for many. Most kids last year were targets for bullies and may be again this school year (2017-2018) as well. My middle child who is now 12 was one of those bully victims last year, which really upset me so much as the school “did all they could and were allowed to do”, yeah right! I know some of you parents reading this know this situation all to well.
Well, I have come up with a solution that is sure to work, but does take some time… After spending countless conversations with my daughters’ school Principal and School Board of Education, and getting literally nowhere at all with either. I not only taught my daughter to fight, but how to use it wisely, but this was not the way to solving her bully situation, neither did her back talking the bully work either. So I had a very good talk with her and explained to her about the Bible teaches us to use kindness against meanness.
So the next day I suggested that she ask her bully what their favorite kind of cookies was, lol he looked at her with “why would you ask me that?” type of look. So that night she and I made the bully his favorite kind of cookies (Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip) and she took them in a zip lock to school. When the bully approached her, instead of letting him exchange rude comments towards her, she pulled out the bag of cookies, held them up and said: “I made these for you, I hope you like them!”… When she returned home, I asked how things went and she replied with “He was still mean, but he said thank you”! This went on for about a week and a half until one day she came home and asked if this kid could come over and play. She explained that he didn’t really have anything at his house to enjoy and that his parents would not mind since they were barely ever home.
Most kids that are doing the bullying are kids that obviously have issues at home and are acting out for attention. They don’t care to think of the attention they want to seek, instead, any attention they get works for them. But mostly it’s because they themselves are hurting and the only way to help them feel better is to hurt others. Let’s all work together in putting an end to bullies, seeing as the schools are not really doing much to help.
Good advice
Thank you Watashiwa
Great attitude towards the bully! There will be other bullies in life, but hopefully there will be a solution. Schools really don’t care at all until the bullied turns around and fights back.
Yes, that is so very true Leslie. It’s really sad when situations get pushed that far. The saddest part is the one who threw the first hit is the one that gets in trouble to worst. Doesn’t seem fair if you ask me. With every action, there is a reaction.
Interesting post! I’m definitely against bullying and the fact that schools didn’t do anything about it really. Thanks for sharing this!
Well, see the school did all they could meaning in the lines of; when they were in the same class, the teacher had to sit them in assigned seats away from each other. In the lunch room, the teachers watch her mainly, and on the bus, the only thing that could be done was for my daughter to sit towards the front of the bus and the bully to sit closer to the back. But that left an opening within the hallways, and times the teacher left the room for whatever reason. Idk if the parents ever really did anything on their end, but I’m just glad she is having a very good year so far this year without her older sister in the same school!!
Thank you for sharing this post since beating bullies is one my passions in my Wordgirl’s Justice League fan fictions on Devianart and Archive Of Our Own. Great idea of beating bullies is to use the opposite word that they insult you with.
Your welcome Deepiaazguy. That’s really good to hear there is a program to help victims of bullies!! Yes, that is very true too. He always hated it when she would say “thank you” to all of his insults.
Those who have never experienced what bullies do should be careful about giving advice. I think you have a great idea. Good luck as this is an ongoing problem, has been for as long as I can remember.
Aww, thank you, Carol! I was nervous about how her year would go without having her older sister there to look out for her on the daily, but she is having a great start to her school year!!
That’s interesting, but would this work if there are a group of bullies involved or if the bullying takes the form of nasty text messages rather than physical aggression?
Honestly, I really don’t believe it would. But then again you never know, if one person stands up for another, I’m sure others would follow. Nasty text messages I would believe the police would take care of that. That would be in the lines of harassment, taunting of another individual. I would be positive if they were to be charged for that, then they wouldn’t want to fork out all the money for legal fees and such. Great question btw, really gives something to think about!