Day in, day out, people go through this tableau; strangers with only anecdotal familiarity float into our lives and then, like ships, passing in the night, they disappear into the maelstrom, of the sea of nations.
In 1892, William James, a famous psychologist wrote, “All our life, so far as it has definite form, is but a mass of habits.” I absolutely agree, we make choices each day and feel like they are products of well-considered decision making, but the truth is, they’re not. They’re just habits.
We all know the fickle routines of the world, who, by varying degrees, live in contrast to the writing style of Ernest Hemingway whose life lessons would probably have read, eat well, walk often, breathe deeply and be passionate.
Another favorite of mine is this one, which binds together all the elements of a successful life.
The wise old sage, Mahatma Gandhi wrote:
* Keep your thoughts positive because they will become your WORDS
* Keep your words positive because your words become your BEHAVIOR
* Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your HABITS
* Keep your habits positive because your habits become your VALUES
* Keep your values positive because your values become YOUR DESTINY
~ MAHATMA GANDHI
There are people on our planet, who have a number one priority goal of winning which usually means, just beating someone else and there are other people whose number one priority, is finding the truth.
And if your highest authority is winning and also being right, that means, you’ll sacrifice the truth sometimes, so that you can win. One thing that I know, is that if you are seeking for the truth, you will be having an amazing life because there is something incredible about getting to the truth of what someone else feels, or about a certain circumstance or what the illusion is about, which you are feeling about yourself. For some of us, every now and then, when they hear someone speak, whose only goal is to win and about being right, it can drive them up the wall.
This is because they are trying to get to the truth, while the other person is hellbent on winning. So, there are two opposing goals. When a person, looking for the truth is having a conversation with someone who is also trying to get to the truth, they are unstoppable. In another situation where a person who is trying to win is having a conversation with another person who is trying to win, chaos is guaranteed because they both want to win and they will often omit the truth, to win.
If a person who is trying to win, has a conversation with a person who is trying to get to the truth, the person who is trying to get to the truth, will go crazy because the person who is trying to win, will use whatever means they can, to win and they are usually horrified by their own tightly concealed truth as it gets in the way of their goal, which is winning.
Usually, when your only goal is to win, you don’t want to know the truth about yourself at all. The last thing you want to do is look at yourself. You don’t want to go beneath the thin veneer of winning, and look honestly at your self and actually learn what it’s like for people unlike yourself, to actually have a conversation with people like you. It’s a horrifying experience for winners to look inside of themselves because their truth is so frequently sacrificed in their quest to win.
Here is what’s really scary, if the people who are looking for the truth just let go, untether themselves from the people who only want to win and allow those winners to compete among themselves in whatever way they need to, it free’s the truth seeker to go back to finding the truth because unless they do that, they will be so distracted from getting to any truth in themselves while being in conversation with someone who wants only to win and the people who want to win are inside their heads and will say any kind of nasty thing to the person who wants only to get to the truth and will play a game of emotional poker, carefully choosing only words that can get them to ultimately win, whereas, the truth seeker, wrongly believes, that the false words flung at them, actually mean something while the person wanting to win, is just ranting and shouting any words that they can think of to get them to win.
The truth seeker hearing those words leveled at them are shocked, into thinking, that, wow, this winner really feel that way about me? because the truth seeker who is looking only for truth thinks that the winner is telling the truth about them while they are really only inventing stuff, to win.
When a person who is trying to win, finally ends up alone, they are forced to see themselves for what they really are. What keeps their wanting to win all the time, alive, is when the truth seeker keeps hanging around letting the winner keep trying to manipulate them. But, If you know, in yourself, that the goal you have is to only find the truth, untether yourself!
You are in your whole body, and not only inside your head. Free yourself because the people that want to win, at one point, will be isolated, and, yes, they will collapse.
They will inevitably meet themselves and when a truth seeker keeps sitting around a person whose only goal is to win, they are unwittingly empowering the winner’s craziness. The moment, they unhook themselves and allows the winner to do as they want, they will immediately realize, that life always takes care of itself, and the truth seekers’ life will begin to flourish. I know, that we all have both of these traits within us but we have also, always known which one of the two, is our priority. In any such conflict situation, ask yourself, what’s the uppermost thought you are thinking? If it’s to find the truth in everything, and gain immeasurably in the long run, then my friend, move forward.