I have been working on this challenge for years, but I still yell at my kids sometimes. I even changed the name to “gentle parenting challenge”, as I didn’t want to keep reminding myself with the word “yell”. But I still always keep reminding myself not to get angry, not to be fierce and not to yell.
I used to think and set the target that I would not be yelling when I reached 40, but I still do. I thought when a person grows older, she will be wiser and calmer, and she can choose not to do something she doesn’t want to. I am still not that person yet.
Though I am not there yet, I know I am actually getting better and closer to where I want to be. I just want to keep reminding myself to work towards the goal.
I just read the new book I receive this morning, and I found that it really speaks to me. I will continue to read and practice.
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Do you get angry easily?
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Yes
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No
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Do you get calmer when you are older?
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Yes
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No
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There are times for anger and times for calm. Sometimes, you have to remind children of the reality of their situation.
Yes, I do tell my kids about the reality, and I am being real to get angry too, but I am also telling them I am learning and growing, and all of us do. I am learning to express my opinions or guide in a more gentle way. I actually think and know that yelling doesn’t make things work, but connection does. It’s just that sometimes my ego or my evil self leads me to the path I don’t want to go…. 😛
No other alternative but choose the calmer option. Getting angry raises one’s blood pressure (lol)
Yes, I agree with you. It actually harms our health as well. That’s why I really need to learn how to avoid it for my kids and my own good as well. 😛
They say you should count up to 10 before reacting.
I rarely get angry anymore, most days I can’t even care…
I can choose not to care about other stuff, but I can’t do that to my kids…. But I need to shift my mindset to care but not angry. 🙂
since I’m not a parent, that isn’t something for me to worry about. not that apathy is a good thing…
Nice post. I do not think you get calmer when you get older.
Thanks. Though it might not come with the age, I still think I can work on it and I’ll get calmer soon… 😀
I hope you can learn to not be angry so easily. It does come with age in my opinion. Life is short, enjoy!
Yes, life is short and the time I can really be with my children are even much shorter. Imagine they are going to live on their own a few years later (my eldest is 10 years old now), I really need to treasure the time being together with them. 🙂