A gas station may be a five-minute drive away from his home, they sell guns. His wife Emily, didn’t realize places like that even existed. Her husband Ryan just walked in and bought a handgun. Earlier, they had gotten into an argument—which, they seldom did—then, he left the house. The following morning, the police knocked on Emily’s door. A construction crew at a nearby abandoned railroad station had found him dead in his car.
We ask “Why?” but “How?”
We tend to think of suicide, as a desperate act following years of torment. The National Institute of Mental Health, tend to think that deep-rooted and complex problems—like depression and other mental disorders, alcohol and drug abuse, family history of suicide—and family violence often hang-over victims, to finally push them over the edge.
Male suicide rates are four times higher than among females. Separation or divorce, in adults, seriously raises the risk of suicide attempts and in young people, disruptive behavior and physical or sexual abuse increase vulnerability.
“He Was Struggling With Nightmares.”
Emily is the wife of this 21-year-old suicide victim, Ryan Frazier, who shot himself with a semi-automatic in November 2008, soon after bringing a lawsuit against a priest who had molested him during his teen years.
Emily was pregnant at the time with their second child and is today the single parent of an 11-year-old son and a 9-year-old daughter. She works in human resources. The priest was convicted in 2007 and sentenced to 30 days in jail.
“He Was Such A Caring Person.”
Ryan and Emily had met in high school and married right out of high school. He was friendly and genuinely cared about everybody. He was one of the top five salespeople in the country for Verizon. He had a six-inch thick business card collection that she still has.
People would write down their number on them as they wanted to meet up with him again because he was such a helpful guy. Ryan was very young, to be handling such a lot of responsibilities and working really hard, along with sleep deprivation of having an infant in the home, as well as his struggles with nightmares since the incident with the priest and, he had also, never used a gun before.
“Do They Ever Screen People For Mental Disorders?”
The police report stated that he had fired test shots out the window of the car. After he died, Emily walked into the same gas station one day where he had bought the gun, and the owner was there. She asked him about the process of selling a gun and if they ever screen people for mental illness prior to selling them a gun.
Then she told the owner, “My husband bought a gun here just before shooting himself.” The owner just mumbled a couple of words but, she couldn’t read his emotions and had no way of telling if he was shocked or just uninterested and he didn’t even say he was sorry. Emily didn’t mention to him, that he was the father of a 5-year-old son and a 3-year-old daughter when he died. Today, she works in human resources. The priest was convicted in 2007 and sentenced to 30 days in jail.
Did you know someone who committed suicide?