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Enemies

I don’t know if hostility is an emotion, or a type of interpersonal relationship.

Anyhow, if inmity requires to be mutual, I’ve never had enemies.

It must be due to my attitude. I take every relationship seriously, and I’d rather not waste any effort in being hostile. Plus, I have high standards and it takes me a lot to think of someone as an enemy. Let me explain how.

 

All my unpleasant connections can be divided into two groups.

 

Opponents

People I compete with.

It could be someone at work, someone who approaches my crush, and so on.

I’m secretly competitive, and jealous.

I don’t know how much of a secret that would be now.

I have no sympathy towards rivals, but I respect them.

Fair play is important when it comes to competitions.

 

Debtors

People who hurt me.

I tend to not avenge directly, I usually let the karma do its job.

Meanwhile, I wait for those who hurt me to pay back.

Sure, I do forgive, but it’s easier to forgive when someone gets their lesson.

I don’t really respect debtors, but I have sympathy for them.

I really hope they can learn from their mistakes and become better people.

 

You can guess what it takes to be an enemy. No respect, and no sympathy.

It’s really hard for me to get that far.

To be honest, it happened once. And lasted for about 5 minutes. Does it matter?

  • Do you have enemies?

    • Yes
    • No
    • I used to
  • Do you share a similar view as mine?

    • Yes
    • No
    • More or less

What do you think?

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  1. You don’t have to do anything if someone else is hostile. Usually that is their problem I do try to find out why they are. Then sometimes those people are hostile to many others for no good reason.
    Yes, I think that am my own worst enemy when I make a stupid mistake, but then it can be quickly resolved

    • I also try to find out why people are hostile. And yes, I completely agree, it’s their problem. Awareness makes at least half of the solution, it surely helps to know what we did wrong and fix it, if possible. 🙂

  2. Hahhaa, some of these are very funny… 😀 Interesting view… I’m not sure how I look at those things…, I guess it depends on the person too… :// Lately I think I’m quite hostile (if that is even the right word) towards people because I’m very sensite to Their negative sides, which means I can sense every bit of their negativity, BUT…, the problem is if I’m sensing Their negativity or it is just My Own interpretation/projection of their characteristics… I wasn’t like that before, I was much more relaxed and forgiving before some very bad things happened to me in my previous relationship… 😐 So, it is a sort of a trauma, and just an increased sensitivity of mine which makes me that “hostile”….. But definitely it takes to have some of such characteristics too in order to even feel that way (I think…..? :///)

    • Maybe. I doubt negativity is created out of nowhere, we’re more likely to absorb it from others. Then we must make sure we have enough positivity to counterbalance the negativity we may face.
      In fact, the enemy I had for 5 minutes was an ex, I lost it when he sent death wishes, but then I gained my lucidity back, and was still able to wish him a good life and good luck while he kept on saying “die, die”. 😐
      I guess you’ve been running low of the positive vibes needed to counterattack, because you dealt with so much negativity now it takes an extra effort to reach balance.
      But you can do it. 😉

      • Yes, I completely agree…..! I am absorbing a lot of it…, quite sensitive to it… :/|
        I don’t know…, I am lacking it a lot for a long time now… I believe “cleansing” is more important, that is how we get those positive ones I think… :/

        Hehheehe, that is actually a little funny… ;D I guess he was hurt, such thing are normal beteen people who have emotions….. I hope you are getting better now after the brake up…? :/

        Yes, I’m fighting with it for a long time, it made a large negative effect on me, in many unhealthy ways… Doing better each day but it is a VERY slow process….. :/| It’s not just that but when it affects your health too…

        • Positive vibes somehow help with cleansing. I think you can’t truly ‘cleanse’ because scars won’t make you forget the wounds, but at least you’ll be able to forgive and move on.

          It’s been a while, like a year ago. I’m fine now, he’s in a new relationship so I’m happy he’s busy elsewhere. 😄

          It’s slow, but at least you’re improving each and every day. A major positive event, or breakthrough, would be awesome, but we can’t have everything right away.
          Just keep on staying positive, and patient. 🙂

          • I guess… I believe you can, there are different techniques and work on yourself…

            Hahahah… 😀 Is that the one you mentioned me in a PM or it was another, “new” one…..? :/

            Thank you much for your compassion and support…! 🙂 I agree with you…, who knows why it’s good this way….. ;/) It happens from time to time…

        • Actually, I got back with the PM guy, that was a recent momentary break-up. I tried to ‘get rid’ of him, but I couldn’t. 😄

          My pleasure. 🙂 I think you’ll improve faster as you go, and it might help to think more about yourself, doing what you like and taking care of your needs, more than relying on what other people do, because you can’t control them and you can’t let them be your source of happiness, anger or frustration.
          Easier said than done, I know. 😅

          • Oh…..! 😀 Hehehehehe, I hope you won’t be disappointed….. :/||

            :)) Yes, that is how I tend to do but at the same time I’m unsatisfied not being able to do the other important tasks (obligations) that are on the stand-by for a very long time due to that now, so I’m relaxing and getting more nervous and frustrated at the same time…………………… :/||||! I actually have a problem with other people wanting to control me and acting the way they would like me to act while they not having much understanding nor compassion….. It”s hard to take care of your needs when other people are actually affecting you constantly…..! :/|

  3. I like your attitude. I have been through many life issues and have learned that life it too short to have enemies and to allow others to dictate your attitude about your life. Forgiveness is a must.

    • I agree, there will always be someone who hates just for the sake of hating.
      But if we ignore them, these enemies somehow no longer exist. 😎
      Some fights and arguments within ourselves are fine, but yeah, we should always forgive and love ourselves, or we run the risk that nobody else will. 😅

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