Online Dating: the Lure, the Dangers, and How You Can Protect Yourself

Love can be found anywhere, even on the internet. There have been a lot of internet-breaking stories of people who ‘met’, fell in love and went on to live happily ever after.

On the flip side, there have also been stories of love that went bad,  really bad and sadly such stories happen a whole lot more than the good ones.

People who go on the internet usually do so to present a side of themselves that is all perfect. Everyone wants to show the world how happy and well-off they are and this also happens with relationships.

>Take this scenario, a man meets a woman, they get chatting, then progress to phone calls and during this process what started out as liking blossoms into attraction, and then love.

>The woman is happy. She’s met a man who fulfills her heart desires. He’s successful, caring, and above all, God-fearing.

>Unknown to her, he’s probably an ex-con gotten for rape or murder and who squats with his mother.

>The lady might probably be a reformed porn star who keeps her former profession a secret without giving the guy the option of deciding if he wants to be with her still.

Now, while these are extreme scenarios, it just goes to show how ‘reality’s on social media is from reality as it really is.

So How Do You Protect Yourself from Getting Hurt or Duped Online?

By following these steps:

1. Be Careful with Personal Information

Be careful how you divulge personal information to this person, until you are perfectly comfortable doing so, so it doesn’t get used against you.

2. Listen to Your Guts

If it tells you something is off, then you should listen and have it checked out.

3. Insist on a Face-to-Face Meet

After a while, you should insist on making your relationship physical, this way you can study and really get to know each other.

4. Never Spend Money or Other Valuables of You’re Unsure

Never send money to this person, until you’ve had them checked out and know they are real.

This is so you don’t possibly get duped of your hand earned money. If you must send money, let it be something you can afford to let go off if things don’t pan out like you’d want.


What do you think?

Written by Muobo


  1. Thank you for sharing these tips on the do and don’ts of online dating or internet use. I try to keep my personal information private just like the super heroes do.