Carol DM
The photo above are chairs in my Dad’s front yard. We would sit for hours talking when I would visit.
I will be away a few days. I have to travel to my Dad’s home to close out his estate. It will be an emotional few days. I need to walk through him home one more time. Kind of like walking down memory lane I suppose. It seems to be a part of the grieving process I need to go through. Alone.
I know others have lost loved ones and we all handle it differently. And I know males and females also handle it in their own way. And that is ok. It is OUR grief. No timelines. No rules. The important part is that we grieve. It is not going away, we must deal with our emotions. Easy to say, difficult to do. No matter how many loved ones you lose it is always heart breaking.
What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger, right? I will be back soon and will catch up on posting. Here are a few questions I wondered about.
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Question of
Have you lost family members?
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Yes
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No
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Did others try to tell you how to handle your grief?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Were you able to find your own pathway to healing?
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Yes
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No
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Question of
Are you now able to help others who are grieving?
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Yes
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No
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I answered yes to all except the last one…I don’t know if I am that good at being help to others in that situation.
Just being there is usually all the help we need.
I answered “yes” to all. How about you, Carol?
Absolutely yes to all of the above.
That’s great!!!! I’m so proud of you!
Thanks so much for your support.
Anytime my dear best friend.
My dad died a few minutes before Easter morning 6 years ago. I had a hard time for awhile, but then I started to find peace. My dad actually showed us how to die without fear. Once I bought a box of cornflakes because my dad ate them every morning and I had to smile while I was eating it. I try to smile when I think of him. He would not want me to cry. Then 3 months later my husband died from a motorcycle wreck. Now, that took me longer, but now I found peace about it. Everybody does have a grieving period. It is important you do that, but remember we are not guaranteed tomorrow, so enjoy today
Thank you for sharing your losses LaJenna. I am sorry. Sounds like you found your own way to grieve. It was a very difficult weekend but one that had to happen.
Thank you, but if you need to talk then message me ok
Thanks so much, I will do that and you do the same.
I do not believe anyone has a ready recipe about how to cure our sick souls from the grief of lost relatives. Only time, deletes part of it – the pain.
I agree Elenka, we all grieve differently.
You talk like you have been there my friend.
Very sorry for your father! Lose of any family member is very unbearable.
Thank you very much Zahid. You are right.