A Letter From Dad

My father passed away shortly after Christmas this year. We have spent a lot of time going back and forth to his home trying to get things donated to people that need them and clearing out what needs to be done so eventually we can sell his home. 

A couple of weeks ago we found letters that he had written to my sister and me. She opened her letter right away and read it.  I just put mine in my bag and thought that I might know when the best time to open the letter would come.

I have been making some big decisions and this morning I opened the letter.  I have decided to share it here because I think that it has value and someone may learn from his thoughts.

Dear ###,

I was raised in a time when women were not equal to men. I don’t believe that I have ever made you feel like you are just as worthy as your brothers of being loved, heard, successful and respected.

This old man has finally learned that you, much like your mother, are “a force to be reckoned with”. She and I both taught you to journal every day and remember “who you are and what you stand for”.  We succeeded greatly in that area. Sometimes we totally disagreed with the things you chose to stand for and I fear that often I was harsh and attacked you instead of the ideas.  I imagine your mother went behind my back and tried to patch things up the best she could. It was clear that you two were best friends and she was not going to let anyone or anything severe that relationship.

If it’s true that when loved ones pass away they get an opportunity to become a guardian angel, your mother is always with you. That would be her choice and everyone understands that. 

Be strong and kind. Don’t let anyone break your spirit. Practice forgiveness. Stand up for those who can’t stand up for themselves.

Thank you for all the things you taught me, sorry I was such a slow learner.

Love,

Dad