Elena Bojchovska
Everyone is wondering what’s the first impression he leaves when he meets somebody. You wonder whether the person finds you attractive, smart, whether he/she liked you or not, do you appear as serious, formal and responsible person. This is an endless list of possibilities. The truth is, you really don’t have to worry about this!
There seems to be a great difference between what you think the person firstly thought about you and what he really thought about you. This fact will bring you peace when all the new meetings and interviews are about to happen. This difference is a social phenomena which makes disagreement in every single new meeting. When two people meet for the first time they are always too worried how does the other person see them. The scientists, with the help of a few researches, claim that the person gives herself a way lower mark that the person they meet. In other words, you leave a way better impression on the others that you think, but you are too busy thinking about this rather than recognizing and accepting it.
It is really unusual why does this happen, because all the people tend to be socially aware. We notice even the smallest details on others, even things that are unnecessary. This should make us guess what does the other person think about us after they first meet us, but the truth is we’re always wrong with this guessing. The scientists claim that when we first meet somebody we do not notice his complete behavior or his defects just because we are too busy fixing ourselves and trying to appear as good as possible.
The best news, after all, is that the chances are you leave way better impression that you think you do, therefore do not overthink it but enjoy meeting new people, going to interviews, talking to strangers and so on.
I have met people and may have liked them at first and then after I got to know them I knew they were not very good people. I have also misjudged good people too. I feel people make impressions on those they meet. For example you can go to an interview and think you did good and do not either get the job or a 2nd interview or you can go and think you did a bad job and may get a 2nd interview or the job.
Thanks for your thoughts and opinion on interpersonal relationships. Timely article as I sit and enjoy Virily ideas and different point of views.
This afternoon, I had a lovely time visiting with lady from work for the first time meeting in her home. Knowing each other a little better for the first time. She works on a different shift during the week and we both know a common friend.
We’re going to meet over coffee again.
I hope you enjoyed your time with her! Just do not worry about the final result, as you probably left way better impression on her than you think! 🙂 Wish you good luck!!