jaylar
When the Abuser has no one to abuse, his self prison continues. He is only ‘allowed’ to eat ice cream on Sunday. He can not eat it any other day. If he takes it out of the freezer on any day but Sunday, he will throw it out.
The Abuser sets himself a certain amount of time to be on the Internet. No matter what is happening, no matter the emails he receives, the information, he can not continue beyond his ‘set’ limits.
He refuses to take a particular train or bus although it is the most convenient. This may be due to some event that occurred decades ago or some need to ‘punish’ someone who is no longer there.
Those who know the Abuser, who suffered his abuse, can predict what he will do. They can ‘read’ him clearly because they know the ‘rules’ he used to ‘control’ or attempt to control them, and are aware that without an outside victim, he becomes his own victim.
Those who don’t know him, those who never experienced this kind of behaviour may look for logical reasons, and might even accept his confused explanations.
Anyone who has ever been with an abusive person will instantly know what they are seeing/hearing. It is an abuser who, without an outside victim is victimising himself.
yes. The abuser wants a victim and does enjoy their power. Now when they have no one… this is how they function
What I understand of a person who harbors a grudge against another person is like taking poison and wishing that your enemy drops dead. It will not happen since the laws of nature are not that way.
People who are abusive need victims. They have to push others around. If they don’t have someone, they push themselves.
I have noticed that since many shows have mean characters that get their kicks out of pushing someone that will not fight back.