Alex Ledante
I would like to take this opportunity to apologize to any of you who were exposed to my informatory comments yesterday, because they were entirely unacceptable and Virily is not the place for such unseemly behavior. A mature person would’ve handled it in the proper forum; via private messages. But I didn’t choose to handle it maturely, instead allowing things to devolve into a flame war. I am not going to make any excuses for my unacceptable behavior, because there is no excuse for it
I know better than that, and set a bad example for new users who might now think that Virily is the sort of place where tantrums are tolerated. They aren’t. Or at least, they shouldn’t be. Not here. Most of the users here are decent folks with good manners and shouldn’t have to deal with such pettiness. I was raised better than that, but I let my parents down along with everyone else here who once thought better of me
If you can see fit to look past my shameful display, I would be much obliged but if you can’t then I completely understand and can’t hold any grudges, since it is rightfully your place to hold the grudge in this situation. At least believe that I deeply regret the incident ever occurred and I will strive to behave like someone you could consider your peer in the future, as I hope that I’ve done in the past
Almost every day, deepizzaguy posts something about an individual who sets a good example by their righteous behavior, but then I act like an obnoxious child in a schoolyard brawl. Even if I am incapable of being a righteous man, I can at least act with common decency. Or if I am incapable of that, then I have no business infecting Virily with my toxic behavior. It has no place here, and I know better
Being sassy is one thing, and I’m not above that. Most of you are above it, but you’ve been kind enough to tolerate my sass in the past and I hope that you will continue to do so but I will never ask you to allow me to be openly rude in the way I was yesterday. That was disrespectful to the entire community, a community that I helped build. Nobody here deserved to be exposed to my spite, and I am ashamed that I so thoughtlessly brought it to a place that many of you believed to be a safe and nurturing environment
That was never my intention. I pledge you my word that I will never behave in such an awful manner again here
#1 our lady of toxic behavior
We can all do better. More than once, I've posted my favorite quote by Gene Wolfe about how we're incapable of being other than who we are is our only unforgivable sin. But I am entirely capable of doing better than I did yesterday. That I let myself down is entirety forgivable- and I do this more often than I care to admit, but letting the rest of you down is much less so. The true sin here isn't wrath, but my disregard for your feelings. I would never behave like that in my parents house, nor should I ever do it here. Should I choose to act like a fool, I would best do so in private, and not our shared space
I doubt that most of you would act as I did, even when provoked far more than I was, so it isn't right to ask for your understanding. Nor am I comfortable asking for your forgiveness after such terrible behavior. But if you would remember that I was always a decent person before, and might believe that I would be a decent person again, then perhaps we can all move forward and put this all in the past
In my case I am more introverted.
then it probably isn’t much of a problem for you
I have learned to bite my tongue in public since it is best not to step on toes of others who have different views of music than my own.
you can’t win a subjective argument anyway
You have a very good point there.