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Somethings are Distasteful

There are times when it is worth having a serious discussion. For me this is one of those times.  As I see it (personal opinion) Virily has chosen to have a site that is about community and conversations. I believe this to be reflected in the changes that have been made.  There is much focus on conversation and respectful sharing of ideas. 

There are some things I personally find distasteful. (To clarify the word here is a definition and some synonyms “causing dislike or disgust; offensive; unpleasant. unpleasant · disagreeable · displeasing · unpleasing · undesirable · off-putting · uninviting · objectionable · offensive · unsavory · unpalatable · obnoxious · odious · disgusting · repellent · repulsive · revolting · repugnant · abhorrent · loathsome · detestable · obscene · foul · nasty · vile · unappetizing · inedible · sickening · nauseating · nauseous · horrible · horrid ~ It seems logical to me that if you don’t want to be a part of a community and work together, blogging solo is where you have full control is a much better creative option. That is probably the reason that many of us here have both and keep them separate.

I find self commenting distasteful. I tried it for a while because it seemed like others were doing it having great success simply commenting on their own work. I was very uncomfortable doing that and I believe it harms the site as a whole. So I stopped doing it. I also stopped reading the work of anyone who uses that as a normal practice. If I come across it I immediately make a note and don’t return to that author. 

It could be the way I was raised. My Mom had something she had cross-stitched that hung in every bedroom in the house. She made one for every bedroom. I still have mine and I assume my siblings do as well. It reads “We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.”

While I have no doubt that is was something specific to a religion that either my mother or father had been associated with, the words seem to make good sense to me and be very inclusive.

  • Question of

    Is it important to be true to your set of personal guidelines?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Is it important to consider the feelings and opinions of others?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Are you personally good at respectfully disagreeing?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Do you ever discuss things you are passionate about?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Do you consider the feelings of others before you put up a post?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Do you believe everyone is able to learn tolerance?

    • Yes
    • No

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  1. Please do not comment about me, to me or converse with me. I wish to have some time away from you. Please don’t comment on my posts or talk about me. I will respectfully do the same. I need time to heal. Goodbye.

  2. Discernment means good judgment. The information came from the dictionary. I am not sure if you are a native English speaker are familiar with the English dictionary and language. Maybe that will clear it up, no reall need to respond. I think we have said all that needs to said and heard.

  3. I really think Virily has changed because they want to save money not because they want now us to have conversations between us. Perhaps they improve the conditions again in the near future if they have more money. But I agree with you that self commenting is not a good thing, if you see a post with plenty of self commenting it gives you a strange notion. It would be great if Virily gives us again virilys when we read and comment posts of other users as this will improve the site.

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    • I am guessing the word you were looking for was unacceptable. I am not certain what the admins opinion is on that matter as the admins have not shared that with me. I would say the best answer to most questions is “probably so” because it really doesn’t mean anything besides I heard you and acknowledged that something was written.

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      • It is really odd you are saying that as they told me they warned you several times about writing posts like this when I complained about you to them (when you excessively criticized me) – where you criticize other users’ way of posting, commenting, etc (I don’t mean insulting comments but commenting in general – like “self-comments” as you call them)… The way You see things is not the Ultimate Way of seeing things and it doesn’t mean what you say and how you see things is true.

    • I believe that is what I was attempting to do Carol DM. I would be so pleased to move on to another topic I stated a simple belief and gave logical reason and then moved on. When I returned my gift was the one thing that I mentioned I personally found distasteful. An entire line of self commenting. I am happily heading on out and hopeful when I return I will find that agreeing to be finished this conversation going nowhere fast will end.

      I am certain that this should be the end of this thread and we can all go on with other conversations and other places.

      Have a great Saturday. I think I shall go for a walk.

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