Ghostwriter
There are times when it is worth having a serious discussion. For me this is one of those times. As I see it (personal opinion) Virily has chosen to have a site that is about community and conversations. I believe this to be reflected in the changes that have been made. There is much focus on conversation and respectful sharing of ideas.
There are some things I personally find distasteful. (To clarify the word here is a definition and some synonyms “causing dislike or disgust; offensive; unpleasant. unpleasant · disagreeable · displeasing · unpleasing · undesirable · off-putting · uninviting · objectionable · offensive · unsavory · unpalatable · obnoxious · odious · disgusting · repellent · repulsive · revolting · repugnant · abhorrent · loathsome · detestable · obscene · foul · nasty · vile · unappetizing · inedible · sickening · nauseating · nauseous · horrible · horrid ~ It seems logical to me that if you don’t want to be a part of a community and work together, blogging solo is where you have full control is a much better creative option. That is probably the reason that many of us here have both and keep them separate.
I find self commenting distasteful. I tried it for a while because it seemed like others were doing it having great success simply commenting on their own work. I was very uncomfortable doing that and I believe it harms the site as a whole. So I stopped doing it. I also stopped reading the work of anyone who uses that as a normal practice. If I come across it I immediately make a note and don’t return to that author.
It could be the way I was raised. My Mom had something she had cross-stitched that hung in every bedroom in the house. She made one for every bedroom. I still have mine and I assume my siblings do as well. It reads “We believe in being honest, true, chaste, benevolent, virtuous, and in doing good to all men; indeed, we may say that we follow the admonition of Paul—We believe all things, we hope all things, we have endured many things, and hope to be able to endure all things. If there is anything virtuous, lovely, or of good report or praiseworthy, we seek after these things.”
While I have no doubt that is was something specific to a religion that either my mother or father had been associated with, the words seem to make good sense to me and be very inclusive.
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Is it important to be true to your set of personal guidelines?
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Is it important to consider the feelings and opinions of others?
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Yes
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Are you personally good at respectfully disagreeing?
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Do you ever discuss things you are passionate about?
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Do you consider the feelings of others before you put up a post?
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Do you believe everyone is able to learn tolerance?
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Please do not comment about me, to me or converse with me. I wish to have some time away from you. Please don’t comment on my posts or talk about me. I will respectfully do the same. I need time to heal. Goodbye.
Discernment means good judgment. The information came from the dictionary. I am not sure if you are a native English speaker are familiar with the English dictionary and language. Maybe that will clear it up, no reall need to respond. I think we have said all that needs to said and heard.
Will you please just stay away from my posts?
Will you please just stop commenting on my posts and leave me alone?
I am sure there are many here who would love to have conversations with you. I prefer not to.
Thanks, I would really appreciate it.
It is difficult for everyone at the moment, not only here on the site, but in real life. We need to show more tolerance, understanding and respect between us.
@lacho that seems like very good advice. I will do my best to do that. Do you have any examples of how I can be more tolerant?
I really think Virily has changed because they want to save money not because they want now us to have conversations between us. Perhaps they improve the conditions again in the near future if they have more money. But I agree with you that self commenting is not a good thing, if you see a post with plenty of self commenting it gives you a strange notion. It would be great if Virily gives us again virilys when we read and comment posts of other users as this will improve the site.
I don’t know their situation is (Virily) I would imagine like the rest of us it’s be effected by the pandemic.
This is not due to the pandemic. In another site that is only for photos, everything is normal – there are and have not stopped the ads and now, thanks to the fact that we are closed, there are many new members.
community is very important. We as authors have to define the confines of our community as we go forward.
we are the content for this site, that is very important.
@Lado, thanks so much for reading and the upvote. That was very kind of you. I hope you have an amazing day.
whatever floats your boat.
Perhaps, again I have not heard this information from the admins. I am assuming you are speaking to me since you are making the comments under my post and that is why I am responding. As I understand it a conversation is between at least two people so I was trying to accommodate that belief by responding.
I am guessing the word you were looking for was unacceptable. I am not certain what the admins opinion is on that matter as the admins have not shared that with me. I would say the best answer to most questions is “probably so” because it really doesn’t mean anything besides I heard you and acknowledged that something was written.
Everyone is entitled to an opinion. Sometimes it is wise to share it and other times people are ready to hear it. It is what it is.
Very important message here my friend. We should all learn to get along and support each other. Agree to disagree sometimes.
I believe that is what I was attempting to do Carol DM. I would be so pleased to move on to another topic I stated a simple belief and gave logical reason and then moved on. When I returned my gift was the one thing that I mentioned I personally found distasteful. An entire line of self commenting. I am happily heading on out and hopeful when I return I will find that agreeing to be finished this conversation going nowhere fast will end.
I am certain that this should be the end of this thread and we can all go on with other conversations and other places.
Have a great Saturday. I think I shall go for a walk.
Thank you here a the quoted definition. “the ability to discern what is of high quality; good judgment or taste.
“those who could afford to buy showed little taste or discrimination”
synonyms:
discernment · judgment · perception · perceptiveness · perspicacity
I will go with that, take your compliment and head to do the important work I have to get done today.