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It truly doesn’t matter if it is praise or criticism; if it is continual it is useless.

Many parents and teachers in an attempt to build a child’s self esteem give them constant praise. One of two things happen. The child either believes they are perfect or believes they do do nothing right.

Here is the interesting fact that the studies proved. You would think the ones who received continual praise would believe they are perfect. The truth is that ½ of each group perceived the opposite from continual praise or criticism. The children with a more profound sense of logic realized at a subconscious level that balance was needed and there was no balance.

So what is the lesson for parents and teachers. Feedback should be accurate, delivered in a manner the child can understand, and balanced.

You can’t hand a child real “self” esteem. It comes from inside of self. They gather the information they receive from all and process it, just like adults.

Let’s look at this site with adults as an example. When there are no comments on a post what is the message the writer receives? It’s not the same for everyone. However, everyone has a reaction and it influences how they feel.

  • Question of

    Could it be that too much of a good thing is a bad thing?

    • Yes
    • No
  • Question of

    Do you disagree?

    • Yes
    • No


What do you think?

Written by Ghostwriter


  1. I totally agree … I know cases where the parents offered the child everything they wanted … today these children are among the drug addicts and the homeless

  2. Yes, I see what you mean. It can actually reach a point sometimes the child/receiver feels “patronised” …

    And of course the opposite applies too! Over-confidence! I’ve seen live example of this! A child getting praised for nitty gritty efforts and then he turns into a brat who throw tantrum on the slightest “hiccup”