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Anger – I Need to Rant

Well there are times I feel like a good rant, but then I know that the aftertaste of a rant never feels good. I always end up regretting the tone of my voice or the choice of words  (although, I am never abusive or use foul words) or just the fact that I behaved badly makes me feel awful. Maybe it is just my upbringing, but I can hardly feel good after a rant. This has left me with no choice but to channel my energy into something creative.

Do I ever feel relieved after a rant? Not really. So why rant? That seems like a good question to ask. Why Rant at all? There used to be a time (many, many years ago) when I gave in to writing my feelings on a piece of paper and burning it. It just helped me give vent to my emotions rather than have them build up within and and make me blow up at a moment when I least expect it.

I found that talking to someone to telling someone how I feel, got me into trouble most of the time. Not that I had bad friends, but somewhere ,somehow it always came back at me. It was then I decided that I would learn to handle my emotions and take control of them. It was a difficult journey. However once I got started there was no looking back, since then I have  had no major issues with emotions. As a teenager I used to be a lot angry, but those are teen years. The hormones are in play.

Being in control of emotions, be it happiness, sadness, frustration, anger, jealousy etc. feels like complete freedom. It is not that you don’t feel those emotions anymore, it is just that you know how to put a lid on it even in the face of taunts, bullying , snickering, meanness etc.

You have the last laugh, but then you chose not to because you know you’ve been there as well.  You grow , you mature , you are in control. The real beauty of being in control over your emotions is that you feel less stressed and almost always in peace with yourself and those around you. Life seems even more  beautiful than it is.

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    Being in control of your emotions is important , right?

    • Yes
    • No
    • Not so sure
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    Having the last laugh is nothing compared to being at peace within , right?

    • Yes
    • No

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  1. It’s actually more healthy to express what you think and sometimes even to rant… Of course, having peace is much better but not always possible…

    When it comes to that I want to apologize for the previous misunderstanding (if it was a misunderstanding and if your article REALLY didn’t have anything to do with what I thought it ALSO (besides US and China) had to do with…)…

    • If that is your opinion you are entitled to it. As a mental health professional I say what I know, what has been researched and studied.
      I will not go into the next point you brought up here, I don’t have to prove or defend myself. You can understand what you want.

        • PS As a mental health professional I think you should have been much more kind and understandable in the situations when someone apologizes and provide understanding (actually in ALL the situations), the common ground, instead of the tone you are exposing, but that is your thing, not mine, and “thank you” for that… maybe you have problems with rants yourself…

          • I have never been rude to anyone, you can check this on this site, what I stated is said in a matter of fact tone.
            If it was an apology it would have been graciously accepted.
            I don’t read or respond to your posts. you are restarting this whole thing again.

          • Actually you were, I saw several of your comments where you made some criticizing and “biting” comments which were deleted after reported so they were definitely the way I felt them too. If they were/are facts, your facts sound “biting”…

            I am not restarting anything, I just said how I felt your comment (your rude reaction to my genuine comment) while I actually wanted to correct the misunderstanding if it was one – if it was not then I don’t apologize…

            What reading or responding to my posts has to do with this…..?

          • PS Glad to learn you don’t read my posts while I was pretty much rewarding to you… It’s your right, of course, just stating the facts though…

          • Also, since all my comments were also written in “the fact” manner and saying how I feel about your act which I thought had something to do with me and my conflict with another user I don’t understand why you reported them, especially that you as a mental health professional should be able to understand that… – it was not a rant, those were explanations the same as now…

  2. The quest for peace is so critical. i wish to find it often, but do not always achieve it. I seek it, grasp it at times, hold it tightly but it floats away.

    It is there, like a red balloon, just out of my grasp,

    but I seek it always.

        • Peace is certainly out of the window for most people and countries. Just watching the news is enough to chase peace out. The covid 19 nightmare is enough to make people lose their minds. The untold suffering of many seems to make even the well grounded a bit weak in the knees. I have decided that I am not going to watch the news for the rest of the day.

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          • i limit myself to once a week for the news now.

            we have to find a path forward that we (we is the operational word here) can be comfortable and happy again!

          • Hmm.. once a week, that is a lot of restraint. I find restricting myself to once a day seems like the impossible.
            What is happening in the US scares me. The apathy and the agony that results makes me wonder what kind of choices we have made.

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